Hi all. I have two kiddos, ages 8 and 6. After a long (mostly internal) debate, my husband and I are done with having babies. I originally wanted more. But I feel like my job as an elementary teacher, plus the pandemic, were big factors in our decision. I’m tired. Not sure if that’s good or bad, it just is.
But I’m curious, how many teachers on here have more than two?? Most of my coworkers have one or two. Those who have three have a heavy support system (grandparents in town usually). I mother/teach students all day and then come home to my own kids at night. My husband is awesome, and does a lot, but I’m still drained.
I also wonder if the fact that I taught kids before having my own warned me on how exhausting they are. I already knew what it felt like to be surrounded by children for hours and hours lol. I see parents with big families sometimes seem like they didn’t know what they were getting themselves into.
Sometimes I get jealous of people who have the mental and physical space to have more than two, and wonder if I made a mistake letting my job dictate my family size. But I love what I do and I did take a break from it for a couple years when my kids were tiny. I needed to be back doing what I love for my own identity. And really our decision to stop was more layered than just my job.
I’m open to the idea of adding to our family somehow in the future, maybe through foster care. But some other things to fall into place first.
I guess this is partially a ramble-y vent mixed in with some curiosity! Thanks for reading!!
But I’m curious, how many teachers on here have more than two?? Most of my coworkers have one or two. Those who have three have a heavy support system (grandparents in town usually). I mother/teach students all day and then come home to my own kids at night. My husband is awesome, and does a lot, but I’m still drained.
I also wonder if the fact that I taught kids before having my own warned me on how exhausting they are. I already knew what it felt like to be surrounded by children for hours and hours lol. I see parents with big families sometimes seem like they didn’t know what they were getting themselves into.
Sometimes I get jealous of people who have the mental and physical space to have more than two, and wonder if I made a mistake letting my job dictate my family size. But I love what I do and I did take a break from it for a couple years when my kids were tiny. I needed to be back doing what I love for my own identity. And really our decision to stop was more layered than just my job.
I’m open to the idea of adding to our family somehow in the future, maybe through foster care. But some other things to fall into place first.
I guess this is partially a ramble-y vent mixed in with some curiosity! Thanks for reading!!
