1.5 hr Commute 1x a week

[inaaminaam55]

@naila For 40 percent more, I’d make it work.

 

[anlytcphil]

@naila It would really depend on a few things like:

1) what is your childcare situation like? Would husband be able to manage drop-off and pickups that day? What is your backup plan?
2) how bad is traffic? Could 1.5 hrs turn into 2.5hrs?
3) is the office strict on which day you go in or is it flexible? Are they strict on the time you have to arrive? Would they potentially increase that to more frequent ?
4) would this job be sustainable if your husband’s job changed at all?

I commute 20-30min each way every day. So almost 5hrs / wk. If you look at it that way the commute is reasonable

 

[naila]

@anlytcphil All good points! I do need to consider the stop and start hours of the day because with traffic I think 1.5 might grow for sure.

 

[louisev]

@naila I do a 2.5 hour each way 1-2 days a week. I listen to audiobooks on the drive and decompress. I WFH the other days.

 

[naila]

@louisev Wow! Glad to know there are others out there making it work

 

[louisev]

@naila I got a huge raise and can use that to negotiate salary in my next position. I only plan to do that commute for 1-2 more years and then I’ll move to something else.

Also , forced a more even domestic labor split in the home…. I am not sure if it would’ve come up organically.

 

[matt21]

@naila 100% yes! I am usually against a long commute but once/week for that kind of raise is a no brainer

 

[rosiem]

@naila its once a week! I would do it.

 

[itisi]

@naila I do a 1:20 commute (almost 3 hr round trip) 2x a week right now, lol, I would jump on it!

 

[grossfeet]

@naila Can you negotiate to every other week? Would that be acceptable in your husband’s eyes? I personally would struggle with that but I’ve never “commuted” more than 15 min.

 

[naila]

@grossfeet Yeah I might try and do that too!

 

[seyi]

@grossfeet JEALOUS. Both my husband and i’s commutes are 1hr -1hr30 each way in opposite directions 5x a week

 

[grossfeet]

@seyi I can’t imagine!! That sounds rough. Current commute is less than 10 min, and our street dead ends to a back entrance to the school so it takes them 2 min to walk. We are super lucky.

 

[matthew116]

@naila It's for sure doable at once a week maybeeee twice but even then that would be rough. But 40% is huge and if you're remote the rest of the 4 days I don't see an issue. I would do it.

 

[davetl]

@naila As long as there was the assurance it was ONLY once a week, then I’d absolutely do it. I wouldn’t do it more than twice a week personally, but for a 40% pay rise I think it would be worth it.

 

[christianmentor1]

@naila I think the $$ to time ratio makes sense if you can make the childcare work. I did an hour commute for a summer once and would never do that again every day, but I do have weeks where back to back weeks I drive anywhere from 2-5 hours round trip one day a week and it works fine for me.

As others have said, check out how bad the commute is approximately in bad weather, etc. but I would definitely seriously consider taking the job!

 

[smart2773]

@naila Cries in my 1.5 hour commute 3 days a week

 

[crosstic]

@smart2773 Sameeee

 

[naila]

@crosstic This gives me hope though!

 

[katrina2017]

@smart2773 How bad is it for you? I'm debating on taking a job 3x a week 1.5 hours each way but pays really well. Is it tolerable at least or is it hell?