working moms

Yes this is about the US. When I took my most recent (0% paid) maternity leave, I took ~9 weeks. My dumbass forgot that my 12 months of paychecks is actually 9 months of paychecks spread out over 12 months. So my dumbass forgot that while I only missed 5 paydays, that’s actually just over 8...

how intensely are y’all playing with your kids after you get home from work? my daughter’s 7 months, so playtime is still pretty chill, but i often wish i was doing more. some days the stars align and i can crawl around with her, read books with alllllll the silly voices, point out objects and...

Hi everyone, FTM here. Our 4 month old is in daycare and we’ve noticed a few things, but not sure if they’re normal or things we should bring up to correct. Just not sure what to expect from daycares. 1) when we pick her up her neck is usually wet and top of shirt- they don’t use bibs when...

My daughter is starting Kinder in August and we also have a 2 year old. We both WFH so haven’t been too strict about bedtimes but now that our daughter will have to go to school soon, we are trying. And I just don’t understand how you all make it work. By the time work is over it’s 5/5:30. We...

Just grumpy about this and have no one to vent to… anyone else annoyed by this in their jobs ? So just a little edit to add: I DO block off my calendar, but my boss and her boss just schedule over it and I’m expected to make it work. I have boundaries, not going to work more than 40… just...

I always wanted 3-4 kids, but I’m beginning to think 2 will be our number. But how hard is the transition with work? I was part time for the first 6 months with my first, but I don’t think I’ll have that option with my new employer. So I’ll be Monday through Friday 40 hours a week. I’m not...

My first (and only) baby will be 5 months old this weekend. I returned to work full-time as an associate attorney after 3 months. I enjoy working, although I am at a firm, I do litigation, and my job is high stress. Under no circumstances do I want to be a SAHM (I sort of became Jack...

I work for a Fortune 100 company in the U.S. My corner of the company is more mission driven than others, and my work is technical and stimulating, so I've found reasons to stay over the years. The maternity leave benefits are good for the U.S., but that doesn't mean much -- six weeks paid...

Relevant background info: I work full time as a consultant, which is flexible but also demanding. My husband is a resident in a surgical specialty. I work ~9 hours a day (8:30a to 5p, then light work in the evenings after LO is down), and my husband works ~12 hours a day (6a to 6p). We have a...

I went back to work last week. I didn’t really think about it too much until I started. And now I’m dealing with the roller coaster.. I’m actually enjoying going back more than I thought but my baby is having a really hard time adjusting. Which also makes it hard for me at the same time. I...

I’ve been back for maternity leave for 6 weeks. My boss left last week for a 2.5 week vacation. We are smack in the middle of our busy season. The workload has always been manageable (and often light even) for me before, but they’ve made some changes while I was out that have increased the...

We have something quite bizarre happening at our daycare, and I wonder if anyone has had that happen to them. We are in an area where daycare is just about impossible to find, with year-long wait lists. Our 5 month old has been attending a (standard, corporate chain center) daycare that has...

Okay I feel like I’m doing something wrong here…I work full time in an office and I have a 16 month old. I get off at 5:00 and by the time I pick him up from my in-laws’ house (they are our child care) and get back home, it’s 5:45. That leaves time to do dinner (I usually don’t even cook or if I...

Hey all, just thought I would share my work/on-the-go pumping setup as I've been pretty happy with it. I cobbled it together by searching Amazon and Googling various things and thought it may help someone else. I was kind of unsure of how exactly pumping, storing, etc. would work before I...

I have a 3.5yo son who is extremely bright, imaginative, social, and funny. I have zero concerns about his development and think he’s pretty well-rounded imo. But folks, this kid loves watching tv. He goes to daycare everyday and when he gets home he’s usually wiped so we got in the habit of...

I posted a few weeks ago saying I had applied to a position.. Basically I felt like I wasn't achieving anything new, wasn't doing anything I was passionate about for a while (since I started mat leave in 2020). I had been in the same position for about 6 years prior to that. I hadn't applied...

The adult human male in my house that I claim my taxes with stated that he was going to bed early so he could get up early. I woke him up at 7:30, none too gently, to make sure he was awake. It’s been a year of this shit, where he gets “time blind because of his ADHD” and stays up until 3am...

Long post warning, need to vent and organize my thoughts, all words of advice are appreciated! My daughter is 2yrs old and 2mths. I stayed PT at my job since my maternity leave and have now been offered to return back to work FT (M-F 8-5) with a raise or stay PT with a pay decrease. My deciding...

Should I find a new daycare? I’m not sure if this is normal, or if I just have really bad luck with daycares. My son’s first daycare seemed ok at first, but after a while we became concerned with one of the teacher’s behaviour. His teacher told me that he wouldn’t lay down for a nap, so she...

I am a full-time working mom (40 hours/week). I have two children in elementary school. Their school starts at 7:30 and finishes at 3:00. I am working at a Fortune 500 company in a hybrid arrangement with M and F working from home if preferred and T, W, Th we are supposed to be in the office. We...