working moms

Okay so, my 18 month old has always been an early riser. She goes to sleep wonderfully, mostly good sleeper through the night, but for long stretches of her life she has woken up between 4-5. Recently, she was sleeping until 6-7, but then the last 3 weeks she started waking up squarely at 4am...

Edit/update: wow, thanks everyone for this delightfully overwhelming response. I have needed this encouragement so desperately, and it is appreciated. I made this post last night after a really long week, and I needed this. Sorry I can’t respond to everyone, though I am reading all the comments...

Not much to elaborate on here. Read more if you want. In my situation kids are 6 & 8. They’ve both been doing rec soccer since age of 5 and started doing fall indoor soccer practice 1x/week at 6. This year dad signed 8 Y/O up for competitive club soccer. 3-4 night commitment for 5-6 months. 2...

The background of it: My mom and her sisters own/owned a corporation. An inheritance from their father. My mom was the CEO and was the only owner actually working there. By way of the most tragic car accident last month, I now own my mother’s 1/3 of company and I control legally in perpetuity my...

Hi all. I’m posting here because I am just going through it right now. Last weekend saw a faint bruise on my 9 month old’s abdomen. I have anxiety and realize I tend to catastrophize everything related to health. I immediately thought this was going to be something bad but instead of panicking...

These columns (despite the brilliant art) always piss me off. “They can ask all they want, and you are welcome to decline”? Really? She comes from academia and has no grasp of the real corporate world. (Edited) Hope you can read her latest column in this gifted link...

My husband and I are high income. I came from a middle class background, he’s from a lower-middle class background. We’ve been together over five years, married with a one year old. Moved into a much bigger house last year and with that have more chores. Laundry. Cleaning. Lawn care. Dishes...

UPDATE: it’s Friday and a coworker asked me why I was going into the janitor’s closet and I flatly said “Apparently we discriminate against lactating mothers here. Interim director name said this was an acceptable place to pump food for my baby, she said my needs weren’t real and I was just...

My toddler (19 months) has been at a daycare for 3 months. She's been bitten SIX times (5 of 6 have been the same biter). He has bitten her back, arms and FACE (still has the mark). We've spoken to the administration and they claim to be working on it, but at this point it seems excessive. The...

Hello I have a boss, call them P and a two co-workers, call them y and m. P, Y, and I have been there since opening, about 8 months ago. M started about 6 months ago. We work with adults that need assistance. M is the issue. She does and says inappropriate things. She was trying get a...

I'm a 33 year old single mom working in corporate America. I've always been a hard worker & recognized as such. At my last job, my director told me "I've never seen someone come in and make such a financial impact as you did in such a short time (around 9 months after I started)." He directly...

I just felt the need to vent about housing. As the kids grow our small house feels smaller and smaller. The thing that is particularly rough is the noise factor. Smaller house means less space to spread out and everyone can hear everyone. My kids are so loud. I’m constantly asking everyone to...

Hi everyone! I had my baby February 2023, and was due to return to work February 2024 but with the childcare crisis I had to extend my leave. I now have secured child care, and e-mailed my bosses May 9th stating I can officially return June 3rd and… crickets. I sent a follow up e-mail May 21st...

I often see this cited as a reason people love/need to work, but I just do not feel it. I’m currently on my third maternity leave and no part of me “misses adult interaction.” 😬 I also generally don’t miss the satisfaction or validation I get from work. I have a pretty high-level job that...

EDIT: below, I incorrectly cited the California minimum staffing ratio as 4:1 for infants (0 to 18 months). In fact, it is 3:1, the research-recommended ratio, as is correctly noted by a couple of commenters. 4:1 begins at 18 months until 36 months; 8:1 from 3 years to kindergarten. Hello all...

Option 1: His current school I absolutely love his teacher because she understands he moves around a lot and does not make him feel like it’s a bad thing because she knows he can’t control it. It is a 15 min drive there and 15 minutes back in a different direction then my other child’s school...

need a gut check on how offended i should be. about two weeks after i announced my first pregnancy at work and even before parental leave backfill interviews happened, one of my direct reports (M) asked me: if one of her peers (J) who also reports to me took the temporary backfill role and...

Posting here too because I feel like a lot of you ladies in workingmoms have gone through stuff like this... So I'm at a bit of a loss for what to do here...I agreed a long time ago to go to this conference for work, thinking, "surely by 8 months my baby will be able to be apart from me for a...

I have 3 months of maternity leave... which I know is a blessing, in this country. However, many refer to breastfeeding as a bit of a full time job, especially during the first 6 months of a baby's life, where they feed quite a bit and aren't yet eating any whole foods. I'll be working from...

In short, my manager suggested that I transition to part time instead of resigning to find a PT job after I spoke with her about needing more time in my day to take care of my baby. So, we had a conversation yesterday and she told me that the department VP said it was company policy to offer a...