should i have another baby?

Late bloomer (F, 40) with a younger spouse (M, 35). Got pregnant at 38. LO is 10 months old now. I never thought I wanted even one, but after a lot of therapy, I learned that I actually just feared replicating my not-so-safe childhood. (Being an only child made that worse FWIW.) I wanted a...

Sunday we (me 35F, husband 42M, daughter 3F) went to the an indoor playground. Husband had an interaction with a little boy who was probably 12-15 months old. After the little boy walked away, husband turned to me and said “Maybe we should have another one.” Since that moment I cannot stop...

Before my ambition for a bigger family is shot down, yes l did just have a baby. Hear me out. I have come to the conclusion that while my first experience giving birth was "traumatic"(an unplanned C-section l hadn't prepared for) it honestly wasn't bad recovery wise. Long story short if l talk...

Hi all, Long time lurker and currently going through indecision about being OAD. We are currently 40M and 37F and initially wanted 2 kids. We had our daughter 7 years ago. We then decided to be OAD due to multiple reasons: Our relationship went downhill due to the stress of a newborn. My...

This post isn’t about me deciding whether I want to have a second child but I’d like to know what other people’s reasons for doing so are. I’ve googled this and get answers like “it’s easier the second time because you know what you’re doing”, “labour might be easier” and “you get to pick out...

TW: abortion, mental illness, covid I have a 4yo daughter. My husband had always wanted more, and so did I, ideally 2-3 years apart. I had a difficult birth and PPD/PPA very bad that went untreated due to my inept healthcare providers. It took about two years to feel normal after her birth, and...

What does everyone think? Do you have any positive experience to share? All perspectives welcome. Both very fit and healthy for our ages, we have one little boy together (7) I’m not bothered about the age gap at all.. but Ive heard late 40s are vastly different, plus there are risks in...

My GF (30F) and I (33F) are a blended family. I have 2 boys (5M, 5M) and she has 2 kids (5M and 4F). We have been together for almost 4 years, the kids were really young when we got together, her 4F was 8 weeks old and my 4M was 9 months old. We basically have raised our kids together. When we...

TLDR: The Title So my wife and I now have two children. The oldest is a boy who is nearly 3 y/o and our second born is a girl who is 1.5 y/o. We first had the discussion for one and likely two and she brought up three and I said no, before she was first pregnant with our first, to which she...

Facts about me: 1. Turning 37 this year so need to decide sooner rather than later 2. Will need a c sec. First c sec was traumatic and slow recovery 3. High sleeps needs individual 4. Not the most patient person Current baby: 1. 13 months 2. Strong willed 3. Not the most adaptable 4. Not...

My hubby and I did IVF back in 2018 after trying to have a baby for 7 years. I was 38. Our first egg retrieval cycle led to 1 embryo. We had always thought we wanted at least 2 kids, so we decided to freeze that embryo and do another egg retrieval cycle right away given my age. Our first embryo...

My husband and I have an amazing two and a half year old, Beastie. Ever since he was born, I "knew" he would be my one and only. My husband was happy with that, especially considering my severe PPD-R, even though he's always wanted two. Over the last few months, I've been discussing with...

My first is 4 months old and, so far, is a unicorn - sleeps beautifully, rarely cries, is perfectly healthy, and loves to smile. I’ve been super on the fence about adding a second. I love the idea of having more love in the family and giving him a sibling, as well as the chance of having a...

I was 44 when I gave birth to my first LO. I was lucky to conceive naturally only after trying for 6 months. I always wanted more but since I didn’t end up meeting my husband (44) until later in life, I wasn’t sure if I would have any at all. I had a lot of PP anxiety after the baby and it’s...

Our LO is 12 months old soon, and we are coming up to when we could, if we wanted, start trying again. (The 2 yr gap reccomended after a caesar). I turn 36 this year, so I wouldn't want to delay too long if that was the decision we made. My SO and I have perhaps slightly different reasons for...

Throwaway account because I have family members whom I have not told. I have a 9 month old daughter and found out a few weeks ago I am expecting again. This is an unplanned pregnancy and I am considering terminating. We knew right away when our daughter was born that we wanted 2 children, but we...

Hi everyone! We (30yr F, 37yr M) have a beautiful 9 month old girl and I was so sure I’d be one and done in the newborn phase, but I’m suddenly feeling differently about it. Sure, there are benefits to OAD and struggles to have 2 (like if one baby cries at night, doesn’t it wake up the other...

My husband (45) and I (40) have three kids ages 10, 6 and 2. IVF was needed for child 1 and 3 and we have left over frozen embryos (up to 3 viable ones, created when I was 28). I love being a mother. It’s the highlight of my life and all I’ve ever really wanted. (I’m also an attorney with a...

In trying to figure out if we should remain OAD or have another kid, I’m really struggling to imagine how we will logistically handle two kids without feeling super stressed out. If we did have another, our daughter would likely be between the ages of 3-4, so by the time a hypothetical second...

I am late thirties and my son is 6 months old and I found my pregnancy to be horrendous. My labour was quite traumatic and ended in an emergency c section. And I have found being a mother very hard thus far. I have always known I wasn’t a fan of babies, that being said I am truly obsessed with...