should i have another baby?

My partner and I currently have one child. She is 16 months old and is the best person ever. S/o and I had a deal. If we do not have another child by the time our daughter turns four, s/o will get a vasectomy. We think that it would benefit our daughter to have a sibling with a 2-3 yr age gap...

My husband and I are in the middle of deciding whether we want to try for a third. Our current kids are 5 and 3. While in a perfect world I’d love to be having another now to keep the age gap similar, that is not going to happen for us. After nearly a year of discussing, we are considering...

I am a 38 y/o female with a 7 year old son from my first marriage. Just found out a few days ago that I am unexpectedly pregnant with my new partner of 2 years. We are torn about what to do and what makes sense for us. My current partner is supportive and open to what we choose but I am unsure...

I have 3 step babies that I get every other week, ages 9,6, and 4. Then I have one 7 month old that is biologically mine. I want to have one more so my biological baby doesn’t feel alone or ostracized from their half siblings… should I have one more or is that too much ? I think about it every...

I have a 6 month old who is aging out of a lot of baby gear- her swing, bouncer, tub, bassinet, newborn car seat, etc. We put an investment into some of these items for sure. We’re not sure if we want another due to multiple factors including birth trauma, some really rough health impacts for...

I'm trying to decide if I want to have a second child or not. My husband definitely wants as many as I'm willing have. Going from no kids to having one was a huge change for us. Annual trips we used to take, we can't do any more. I have no down time to myself in the evenings. Division of labor...

Over the past few weeks my wife has been more direct in asking about having another kid. She (38) is the middle child in a family with three kids and I (39) have a younger brother. Our son (5) has started making comments about not having a real brother (his brothers are all stuffed animals)...

Hello! Just as the title states I’m honestly trying to figure out if I am OAD or would like a second baby. My birth was a traumatic experience and quite honestly I don’t know if I want to risk doing it all again. My first pregnancy started out great, no major symptoms (just regular things-...

Our first is about to turn one. Before getting pregnant I was adamant I wanted two. However, the pregnancy, birth, and newborn experiences have seriously shaken me and now I'm really on the fence. If we do have a second one I'd want to start trying soon so that they're not too far apart in age...

Hello! I’ve been wanting to write this for a while. I’m 37, mom to our angel of a toddler who is 2, and dad is 36. What’s holding us back: we prize balance (husband more than myself) and the half of the year that is wildly busy for my husband at work can be hard to keep the family intimacy...

I'm 37 and my husband is 36. My husband is a wonderful and attentive father...when he's home. Which is approximately 6 months of the year (4 week rotations - gone 4 weeks, home 4 weeks). I work part time during our winter slow season and full time over the summer. Our 2 year old daughter has...

I've heard so many different opinions about this. Some say having a second is only 1.5 times the work, some say it is around twice the work, and others say it is up to 5 times the work!! Obviously this is a matter of opinion, but I suspect there are also other factors at play, including the...

I have a 6 month old currently and go back between being One and Done and wanting him to have a friend close in age. If we were to have another one I would either want one soonish or not ever. The thing is that we don’t have much support. My husband’s family is nearby but I don’t fully trust...

Hi all - I am agonizing over the decision to have a second child or not. I feel like it was a super easy decision to have one, but after pregnancy, delivery, and postpartum (and the first year of broken sleep) I am so much more hesitant to have a second. Everyone around me is moving on to their...

Hi parents of onlies! I'm an only myself and just wanted to share a podcast called One of One on the only child experience in case it's helpful for you to get a sense of what it's like to be an only: Spotify Apple

36 y.o. married female with an 18 month old son. Husband is 42. Son was an IVF baby. We have 1 embryo in storage. I would like to use it. Husband is pretty much OAD. What factors came into play when making your decision to only have 1 child? Or is there anyone in this group that actually ended...

Hi everyone, I'm struggling with having to make a decision,,, I've had 2 prior C-Sections and chose to have a repeat c section over a vbac I regret it now since I didn't realize it could increase the risk of placenta accreta Not only do I have uterine surgeries as a risk factor but I need to...

Our little family of three had an idyllic Saturday morning. We went on a big bike ride (my son, 2, on the back) to a massive park. We brought sandwiches. We played and ate. I had a break and watched SO play with my son. Then we switched. We came home laughing and singing silly songs while...

Should I go for a 4th? I am not even sure which sub I should be posting on… Trying for a Baby? Parenting in Bulk? Should I have another? Mods, please delete if this is not the appropriate sub. I am 35 with 3 kids ages 2,3 and 5. 2 boys, and the oldest is a girl. My husband (47) and I were...

My daughter is 16 months and I love being a mom but the tantrums really just are a lot. I can’t imagine going through the whole newborn stage… again. She was colic and it was horrid. She’s the best baby now, sleeps 11-12 hours a night with no issues unless teething, and is just happy. I feel...