should i have another baby?

Hi all, I’ve been surfing on this page for a bit reading other posts about going from 1-2. Im hoping some experienced parents here can help. Sorry if this is a long post, I have so many questions in my head and no one to ask in real life haha! Some background- I’m 28, hubs is 36, our toddler is...

Reposting here as the mods over at r/oneanddone didn’t like my post 😅 My husband and I always assumed we’d have more than one kid. And still love the idea of having two kids. However my gut is telling me that being OAD is ultimately the right choice for us. We both have to work. It isn’t an...

I've always wanted 2 kids but when we have our first, it made me realize that having a kid isn't a walk in the park. It isn't just about the hugs and the snuggles. You also have to deal with proper nutrition, discipline, etc. I grew up in a household/culture where having a nanny is pretty much...

35F with 36M husband and almost 15 month old son. We rent a 2BR apartment in an NJ suburb close to where I work as a teacher. Husband is a senior software engineer who is currently laid off for the 3rd time in 3 years (yay startups). We are hoping he can land another remote position, as working...

I am leaning towards having a second child because I would like my son to experience the positives of having a sibling (having shared memories, being able to look out for each other as children and as adults, etc.) However, I am also aware that there are downsides to having siblings (less...

My husband and decided before we got married that we wanted two chidlren. It took us a long time to conceive our little girl (over 3 years), and during pregnancy my placenta stopped working properly and she was born prematurely by emergency c-section at 33 weeks, then spent 5 weeks in ICU. I...

We are a very solid couple who welcomed our son in 2021. We are now thinking about adding another; I am more in favor and my husband is more reticent, but I keep going back & forth in my head about it, and time is running out since I don't want to get pregnant well into my 40's (assuming I even...

tl; happy with one but on the fence with medically complex anatomy. help/support welcome! Hi all, I am 37f with a 42m spouse and a 5yo daughter who is the light of our lives and I am REALLY struggling with trying to decide if we want to try for another, if we do it has to be through a FET IVF...

Looking for experiences and thoughts on 3 or 4 year age gaps. Would you have waited? Gotten pregnant earlier? Pros and cons?

I was thinking about the thread asking only children (like myself!) about their childhoods and feelings on being an only - here's my answer - and saw someone in another thread saying they were a third child and felt it was detrimental. As someone without siblings, I always wonder about the...

Hello, Long story short my sister is pregnant with her first and it thrust me into a baby fever— I have a 3 year old girl, my hubby wants another baby really badly. I honestly had a good pregnancy, my 3 year old is in preschool M-F, and I have Great family support, my parents babysit, my...

I’m turning 34 and my husband is turning 37. I thought I didn’t want kids due to trauma and I was not ready. I have a 3 month old now and my husband wanted kids. I’m now so in love with my baby and would like a sibling for my child. Cons - I had about 2 months of mild hyperemis with puking...

We have been agonizing over this question for months and I would love to hear your thoughts. My husband (32M) and I (35F) have a 3.5 year old and a 14 month old, both boys. We love them to peices and I am so grateful to have them in our lives. When my husband and I were first married, we were...

I (38F) am 95% OAD. I’m one of 3 and have great relationships with my siblings which is the only thing that doesn’t make me 100% OAD at this moment but I’m sure I’ll end up there. My parents migrated to the US when I was about 7 y/o. Growing up we struggled financially, grew up poor, didn’t...

I was so sure I was one and done. My son is perfect, and we even managed to get a house in a crazy expensive market. My family feels complete. But I think about having another 24/7. I almost can’t think of anything else to the point it’s dehabilitating. My husband I are doing ok, but another...

It’s completely irrational but my son is nearly 4 and he’s just always been such a tough kid that despite always thinking I’d have 2 or 3 kids I’m just not ready to have another and honestly am not 100% sure I could do it again. I see people who had kids at the same time or even after me that...

My husband (28) and I (26) have one beautiful 2.5 y.o. boy. I'm considering having another. My husband says he will go with my decision, but is happy with just one. My big predicament is whether my son will be happy without other children around. He has no cousins and will not for many years...

My husband and I got pregnant unexpectedly a month after we got married. Although I had a pretty healthy pregnancy, I hated being pregnant. Birth was extremely difficult, I labored on and off for a week and had a c section. Recovery was super hard on me. I don’t like feeling immobile or self...

…of having a third. I realize no one can make this decision except for me and my husband but here I am posting anyway. Life right now is so “neat” and easy with 2 kids. They play together, there’s an 1:1 child parent ratio, we “have one of each”, things just feel perfect & fun. However...

UPDATE: He decided against having a baby...so I’m sad BUT I get to have my tummy tuck. Also, I stayed true to my word and did not try and sway him to saying “Yes” he decided on his own and said he likes our life now and already considers my kids his own and would like to just enjoy life with me...