should i have another baby?

A little background first. We took 4 years to finally have our first son. We experienced 3 pregnancy losses (4 babies, one pregnancy was twins) one failed round of ivf and 6 failed cycles of medically assisted timed intercourse. Every test under the sun and the only “issues” are that I have one...

Overall I’m so happy with my one son. I really do love the dynamic of our family and love having so much one on one time with my son. I have have struggled quite a bit with anxiety, depression and ocd once my son start weaning. It was on and off really rough for 7 months. When my son dropped...

Dear all, I guess I don't really want advice, just sympathy. Husband and I have an absolutely wonderful 4yo boy. He is smart, empathetic, loving, and when he is not having toddler-esque tantrums, he is a joy to be around. When we planned or talked about having kids, we always wanted two, that...

*cross-post from r/AskParents I am 31F and I have 1 biological daughter who is ~19m. I'm in a very loving relationship with her father/my husband. My plan ever since I was 16y was to be pregnant once and to adopt once. I want 3 kids, so since I had 1 baby with my 1 pregnancy, I would want to...

I’d love to hear from people who weren’t sure on 1 vs 2 and how it’s going if they went for #2. The decision on 1vs 2 for me was debilitating . I don’t know why but I constantly thought about it . Even before we had my first. I think it was because of my age deciding I was ok with only 1...

Have a 7yo son, he’s great but exhausting. Working from home and distance learning can be tough. Fiancé would like to have one together (different dads). I’m worried because I’m so tired at the end of the day with my 7 yo. I’m getting old so we need to decide fairly soon. The age gap would...

My husband and I have been fence sitting for ages on a second but we had a conversation that is leaning more towards it being a "yes". In our hearts we definitely both want a second but the logistics and financial burdens are feeling a bit much. I'm finding myself trying to figure out the...

Did any of you put all practicalities aside and go for your third? Our boys are almost 2 &4 (June babies) & are A LOT. Half the time I dream of a third (I have a girl embryo) and the other I wonder if I can even handle one more. I want to want ti be able to handle more but at 40 I’m exhausted...

My husband (39) and I (42) have a gorgeous, smiley, curious, babbly 7-month old. For AGES, we both were on the same page that we'd either have 0 kids or 2+ kids. He had a great childhood with his sister (who is now estranged from him as an adult, but the childhood memories are still there)...

My husband(39M) and I(34F) have a 3 (almost 4) year old. When I was pregnant we discovered I am a carrier of 2 genetic conditions, one of which is x-linked. After intense discussion my husband and I decided that if we have a second we will use IVF with pgt-m. Unfortunately the pandemic and now...

Looking for insight on the decision making process. We go back and forth on having another. We’ve wanted to have a second, but for various reasons over the last decade we haven’t. Our first was unplanned, and we weren’t “ready” in any sense of the word. If we had not had supportive family...

Just rambling the things my husband and I talk about regularly. We are both on the fence about having another child. We have an 18 month old little girl who is the light of our lives. She’s so wonderful. Do we want to roll the dice again taking a risk with another pregnancy, birth, child health...

Hey y'all!! sorry if this is messed up i'm pretty emotional right now and need some advice!!! I had my beautiful girl 6 months ago and husband and i have been firm OAD. Pregnancy was great health wise besides HG which caused a significant amount of weight loss but thankfully baby was perfect...

My husband and I are both 33. We have four girls— 10,8,6, and 1. We thought we were done but we just had a pregnancy scare that initially we were not happy but in the end both ended up disappointed it was a false alarm. We don’t want to try to a boy but a boy would be welcome. Four girls with a...

I have a 6 year old and 3 year old.. their births were difficult— both ended in a c-section after hours of pushing. After talking to a couple of doctors, I found out I have a “borderline” pelvis and all future births have to be c-sections. Husband (37) and I (35) have been going back and...

We have 3 amazing kids, 5, 4 & 2 and there’s nothing I love more than being their Mom. I’m a SAHM with my in laws living next door and my parents 10 minutes down the road, so babysitting or if we need an extra hand has never really been a problem for us (such a blessing!) My husband has a...

I’ve been trying to do soul searching, reading blogs, meditating, praying to whoever, everything, over being one and done or trying for a second. I won’t get into all the details because my story is like so many others. Essentially husband feels complete with our unit of 3, and has more or...

I was SO sure I was OAD. I gave away a bunch of my daughters baby things. I had hyperemesis and she was (unexpectedly and inexplicably 9 weeks early). I was so sure I would NEVER want anymore. But we said we would officially close the door when she got to school- logic being if I ended up with...

I have always wanted 3 kids, and I still do. I have my 2 beautiful boys, 1.5 and 3. Parenting has tested me in ways that I didn’t anticipate. I’m still reeling at the trauma I’ve had to work through in therapy, how much I’ve had to unlearn and relearn and unpack. The relationships I’ve had...

Hi all. I have two kiddos, ages 8 and 6. After a long (mostly internal) debate, my husband and I are done with having babies. I originally wanted more. But I feel like my job as an elementary teacher, plus the pandemic, were big factors in our decision. I’m tired. Not sure if that’s good or bad...