one and done parents

‼️POSSIBLE TRIGGER ‼️ For context | 21 f and my husband 22m had our first child in march, I absolutely love her to death but PPD/PPA has taken a huge toll on me. I have a history of depression/ anxiety. In the past l've had suicidal/physical harm tendencies. And now I'm having what's call...

Anyone feel similar? I always thought I’d want 2-3 kids but now I’m re thinking that. My daughter is only 7 weeks old but I think we might be done. She already sleeps 6-7 hours straight in her crib a night & wakes up smiling & cooing every day! As long as she’s not hungry she’s content to sit...

I am a new mom to a 9 month old boy. He is the best thing that’s ever happened to us. He is so joyful and can communicate his needs and I just love spending every second with him. I’m fairly sure I am one and done. I have seen a lot of posts about being one and done because of a tough...

Hello! As of two weeks ago, I'm am officially one and done. I have mixed feelings about it but ultimately feel this is the best decision for us. First of all, the money. I work 4 days a week and my spouse 5 days. Even with that, it seems like it's not enough. Daycare is very expensive, we both...

Mainly joking, mainly. My husband and I have a 5 month old girl right now. She’s lovely, but I cannot fathom doing this again with a toddler running around. My husband brings up his family name ending as a joke, but I know he wants a second. He’s an amazing dad and I know he’d be great with...

I've been trying to make mom friends for 4 years, thanks to Covid it made it next to impossible for the first few years. I'm horrible at small talk and making new friends because I'm always socially awkward. All the friends I do have I've made through work and unfortunately none of them have...

Is anyone one and done because they were the older sibling in their family. I’m the oldest of 5. I was never the favorite child. My younger siblings got away with everything while I was expected to “set a good example”. I always had more chores and responsibility because your X age now. But...

This is a rant on my feelings and a bit of sad and mixed emotions. I need some words of support and encouragement. Maybe even hearing some Only child experiences. Oh man y’all. Where do I start? I was here about a year and a half ago with some really horrible perinatal depression. I was scared...

I have an 8 month old baby who I love so much but physically, mentally, and financially I don’t understand how most people can have even one child, let alone 2+. My experience thus far… Pregnancy: 5 months of nausea, leg cramps and hip pain the entire time, lots of fatigue Labour: one week in...

I’ve always wanted two or three children, but decided to be OAD, because my spouse is a pathological narcissist and I need to guard and prepare myself, my kid, my career, and my financial independence for the worst and another child will significantly reduce my chance of being independent. I...

talking about loss The comments about another don’t happen often to me thankfully. For context I had two early miscarriages and a stillbirth. That’s when I found out I had a 5% chance of carrying to full term. After that we chose to create embryos and used a gestational carrier. It took 3...

My 11 mo will be going to daycare tomorrow for the first time. We are immigrants, so no family support. But in-laws came to help + all kind of leaves we can use, we managed to keep her home till now. Now she knows who we are, prefers mommy over daddy, cries if we don't pick her up, is a picky...

I love my baby so much and I’m 1000% OAD. But holy hell how do people want to have more than one? I don’t have much help and my husband works away a lot lol so maybe that is why I don’t but I’m sooo oveeerrr the poopy diapers/ wrestling a wild baby to change them, the scream crying when he just...

My daughter turned 7 and has always been emotional. My husband, daughter and I have always talked about emotions and I feel like we have a good understanding/recognition of how we feel, sitting with the feelings or working through them as needed. I think we’re also pretty good at self...

We’re one and done because we didn’t get the easiest kid situation. Our son is almost 6 and struggles with so much anxiety such that his parents dread weekends. He’s too nervous to do sports like swimming or t-ball which is what other kids do on weekends, he’s too afraid to hurt himself on the...

I've seen it here and elsewhere a few times, comments that childless people should keep their opinions to themselves about what parents are doing. I'd just like to toss out my two cents... It takes a village, and that INCLUDES the childless friends. Just because someone doesn't have children...

I saw this Twitter thread and it made me think about the ways that parenting is harder now than just a generation ago. I wonder to what extent that’s playing into decisions to be OAD. Of course, I understand and mostly agree with the safety rules for babies and little kids, but they sure make...

So I’ve a baby who’s 9 months old now but I also have a 20 year old too! I was always one and done with my ex, had the kid at 16 when still at school and dragged myself through medical school to make a better life for us. Achieved that and met a guy who also had kids from his ex partner. Anyway...

So, I have a very hyper active 2.5 year old that is just lately burning out my husband and I. He is our one and only, and lately his behavior has further fueled our decision for OAD. He's like a loose cannon sometimes, and it takes every patient cell in my body to try to gentle parent ASAP...

I have an oddly specific question. If you limit screentime with your only, how do you do it? Currently Mini, 7, doesn’t have a limit. I think it’s affecting his behavior and would love to limit it to 3hrs a day for summer. The trick is he is up at 4-5am daily and doesn’t sleep until 7ish. He...