co-parenting

  1. O

    My toddler keeps getting poorly

    A little context, me and my daughters dad broke up when she was around 10 months old because he threatened us both with a k***e whilst drunk and also whilst I was nursing. I rang the police, he snatched my phone threw it and took her from me and left through the night. I’m still super...
  2. W

    Need help putting presents under the tree from Santa this year? Check out /r/stressfreexmas for assistance! Mod approved post

    Need help buying Christmas presents for your kids this year? Come visit r/StressFreeXmas. We all know that Covid has hit everyone hard this year, on top of the existing day to day economic stresses. We want to ensure kids get at least one present under the tree this year, and we are committed...
  3. J

    Typical custody arrangement for 1.5 year old (U.K.)

    So me and my ex had a coparenting agreement, going to court in the U.K. is not the norm so we had a verbal agreement. He’s decided he doesn’t like this and is now pushing for 50/50. I’m not happy about this I believe our child need stability and I’m the only parent he’s ever really known. His...
  4. S

    Baby daddy is living w/his gf & her kid & they use the N word

    ugh. so my baby daddy is moving in with his gf and her kid. when my son is over there, he hates it. they gang up on him & dad doesn’t do anything. but today, & this is something i kinda heard before (but they weren’t living together) when i picked my son up today (hes 8) we were talking about...
  5. V

    I want to do what’s best for my daughter but am I going at it all wrong ? Long story btw

    So just a back story for context. I am 23 f and my ex 24 m , we have two daughters together. V. Which is turning 6 and R. That is turning 3. He is an independent contractor , so he works for himself , he doesn’t answer to a “boss” or “manager”. When we first split we had always argued because I...
  6. J

    Will my 8 month old son forget me after 1 months absence?

    (U.K) So me and my ex partner split a couple of months ago and I’ve been having my son every Monday, Wednesday and Saturday since then…. But for the past 3 weeks I’ve been told he has a “cold” so I can’t come and pick him up, I’ve also been told multiple times he’s nearly better only to be...
  7. E

    Moving date is coming up but we still don't know what city we're moving to.

    Tldr: ex refused to talk about moving until it was important to him and now I'm trying to figure out if I should just move and let him get angry. My ex and I separated in 2020 and I initiated the separation. For the most part it was ok but I did feel like shit for being the one to break up our...
  8. E

    My Ex (F) is trimming my 10F’s body hair, should I say something to her?

    Co-parenting for 2 years, 50/50 custody. My 10F is obviously hitting puberty and I’m trying to be open about hormone and period talk when she wants to talk about it. This visit she told me that her mom trims her privates. First time it came up I didn’t say anything as maybe it was a one off and...
  9. S

    Girlfriend telling my son he has an allergy when he doesn’t.

    My son (11 y.o.) just told me his dads live in GF told him he’s allergic to gluten and that’s why he’s itchy sometimes (I’ve dealt with my sons medical issues since his birth and I’m also a nurse. He has seasonal allergies and asthma). He is not diagnosed with a gluten allergy. This is...
  10. F

    Child’s Birthday Party Approaching - Invite Toxic Ex and Her Toxic Friends?

    Title sums it up, and this is a legitimate question. For those seeking more information: Child is going to be 8. I have paid for every party previously (they’ve been expensive and essentially large social qualifying events for the mother). Mother and I have both attended child’s parties in...
  11. J

    Am I being unreasonable?

    I am just looking for an outside unbiased perspective on this. I left my partner of 17 years 8 months ago. We have a 12 year old daughter, who lives with me full time. At the beginning of our seperation, the agreement was that she would be with me Monday to Fridays and with her dad on...
  12. H

    Missing 2 days of school

    My son is 6 now but will be 7 and in 1st grade when this will happen. I’m planning a trip to Disney world when Christmas decorations are up. I want to avoid thanks giving week and Christmas week due to crowds. Which will give me 3 weeks in between those dates but school will still be in! I...
  13. S

    Am I just over thinking, or is this actually weird?

    My ex-husband (45) and I (42) have two kids (10m, 13f). He's been with his fiance (age unknown, but probably close to our age) since Nov 2020, and got engaged at the end of April, this year. My kids love her and she seems nice. I have no explicit reason to not like her, other than that she seems...
  14. A

    Co parenting with a firefighter

    My ex husband recently got in the fire department. He now works only 2 days a week sometimes 3. I work a traditional M-F job. He did too for the 10 years we have been divorced. Now I'm not sure how to make a consistent schedule for our boys. His work schedule is not consistent either. For ex: 1...
  15. J

    Ex wants son to travel to TX from IL and I don’t, am I overreacting?

    Me (mom): laid off due to Covid (event planner), live in Springfield, IL with our 12-year-old son and his 2 cats. IL is on lockdown through the end of this month. We haven’t been with family or friends since 4/3, minimal trips out for me only with mask, shower once home. Dad: lives in Houston...
  16. B

    Would this make you uncomfortable?

    Quick background: I’ve been divorced since 2017. Ex-husband and I are both from city X but lived in city Y through the 5 years of our marriage. While there, my parents moved from City X to City Y to be closer to my daughter. Right after divorce, ex-husband and I moved back to City X, along with...
  17. R

    “Coparent” No call no show?

    ETA: Obviously my question got lost.. How do I help my 4y/o cope with not hearing from him? Ideas, thing to help a 4y/o understand that it’s not the end of the world and I’m here for her my personal opinion of my ex is vented here not in front of my daughter. i DO keep it separate from my...
  18. M

    Holidays

    Anyone in a more parallel parenting situation, what do you do for holidays if you have split custody? Right now we alternate yearly Thanksgiving and Christmas Day from 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. I get my kids every father's day and she gets them every mother's day. I'm going back to court to add the...
  19. S

    As a SO of a new coparent I need perspective

    Apologies ahead of time for grammer and my rambling. For some context I (30m) broke up with my wife around a year ago. We get along great and seem to coparent very well. She has a boyfriend we have not met yet only because he doesnt feel comfortable doing so yet. Id like to meet him and im sure...
  20. V

    Vacation Posturing

    My ex (F47) and I (M53) have been coparenting for about 8 years. Mostly it’s uneventful these days. But… Our two kids (ages 12 and 15) get two vacations each spring, one week each. Our custody agreement is very clear: 50/50 custody, and equal sharing of vacations and holidays. This year I...
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