co-parenting

My 9 year old texted me from his new phone that his mom got him. We have never had any conversations at all about phones. We have 50:50 legal and joint custody. I’m confused why he has a phone now and how I should handle it when he’s here? Also as a side note, he texted and asked if he could...

They are 3 and 6 and I don’t know what more to do. I currently have a restraining order in place and also full custody but he was granted visitation of every other weekend. The restraining order means absolutely nothing to him and he is constantly violating it and I have called the cops...

For context, CP and I separated almost 4 years ago, we have 2 children together who are approaching 10 (F) and 6 (M). I have been with my new partner for 1 year and she has 3 children from a previous relationship. My kids always seem happy and affectionate with my partner and love spending...

How many people here do exchanges / start time at school end? I would prefer when my daughter starts going to school that it be our exchange spot because it is a very high conflict situation and I think it would be nice for him to not have that extra time to berate me / say mean things in front...

It wouldn't let me cross-post this from r/Divorce... I (39/M) and STBX (39/F) are currently separated and are pretty civil/amicable towards each other – if for nothing else so our son (9/M) doesn't have to be caught up in the middle of any BS. This post is part rant but also part question of...

My coparent let me know he’s been dating a girl for 8 months, because he wants it to go smooth for our son. Our son is 4. I asked for her name to do a background check (he is naive and I don’t trust his judgement). I found 5 criminal charges I didn’t like (nothing violent) and I checked her out...

I’m wondering if it’s common to enjoy coparenting. I get 50% time off to clean, plan meals/crafts, and sleep in. It felt like I was much busier when parenting in a single household. It was also anxiety-ridden since my STBXW would micromanage my parenting. And I’d go along with it in order to...

Does anyone else have a coparenting relationship where you’re friendly on a surface level/amicable for the kids sake ONLY? Under the surface, I still can’t get past the horrible things they’ve done. If I weren’t legally obligated because of the children, there would be no contact at all. Yet...

My sons father hasn’t been around I can literally count on my fingers how many times he’s interacted with him, I put him on Child support his arrears are at 9 k now he been saying he will pay he never does , he has a job , even has 2 kids now , what do I do about this ?

I’m not sure if this is the right place, but I’m hoping to get some good advice and do the right thing for my kiddo. TLDR: STBXH and I separated. We share our daughter (3 1/2). I’ve always been the primary parent and toddler is vocal about not wanting to be with her dad. We’re supposed to have...

Starting the process to becoming divorced, and I'm looking for 50/50 schedules to propose. I like the idea of 4 - 3 - 3 - 4 as a step towards 7-7 so each parent deals with each day of the week and knows and is involved with all aspects of the kids activities - BUT, our kids have some activities...

If this has happened to you can you let me know how you got through it because I am so depressed right now. My daughter is 9m we just finished mediation today and came up with a parenting plan. Anyways hes going to start trying overnights in August. And since he will be getting her in the...

Context: My daughter is almost 3, I have primary custody & she visits her dad e/o weekend. The father of my child & I have very different parenting techniques, including beliefs about routines & bedtimes. At my house we have the same routine every night (outside, dinner, bath, books, bed) &...

My 11 year old daughter cannot stand her father. She doesn't want to go over to his home, ever. It is a fight nearly every single time that she needs to go there and it is getting worse. We do not have a custody agreement because we split up when she was 3 months old and for the most part, do...

The kids have been great sports so far with accommodating this complicated schedule. My ex and I live about 5 min away from each other. Anticipating the kids not wanting to change houses so frequently at some point in the future and possibly needing to switch to 7-7 or something with fewer...

My ex wife and I have a 1 (almost 2) year old son. It was decreed in our papers that we have a right to one 30 minute phone call a day when he spends the day with the other parent. Since he is so young, he does not understand the concept of using a phone. This results in me having to hold the...

Long time lurker, first time poster! I need some input from the Reddit community about appropriate expectations during parental visitation. For background: I (39F) have been divorced from my ExH (47M) for 6 years. Up until last year, we shared 50/50 custody of our three kids (17, 15, and 12)...

I am looking for advice in general, on right or wrong. Back in 2019 I had a little boy, whose biological father went to prison, has been on drugs and won’t stop. He’s basically non existent to his biological father. So, I ended up meeting a man late of 2019, & we started dating in 2020. So...

So, biodad and I have one son who’s 6. He was around for about 6 months after birth but then went into a drug and psychosis spiral. Our son hasn’t physically seen him since he was 1 and hasn’t had a video/phone call in over a year. He’s been in and out of prison several times over the last 5...

I currently provide healthcare for our child and it is a high deductible plan. Father has recently offered to put our child on his employer provided plan. On the face of it, it appears to be better than what I have. I'm hesitant to agree to a change because father has a long history of changing...