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@veronicajohn It’s not controlling to expect your daughter to participate in family traditions while she lives with you. I think you did the right thing by telling her maybe she doesn’t need to participate in Christmas morning. She sounds a little spoiled to come at you afterwards about “wasting...

@garberse 🤞 hopefully they will take care of a least SOME of it for you! If they’re anything like my kids, they will need reminders and probably a little coddling beforehand LOL I can see it now…Mom buys break apart cookies, Mom makes Johnny get ornaments from the attic, etc. I agree that it’s...

@vonhelton It IS normal to be pissed off and sick of the pushback. With teens, it does feel like a constant battle of the wills. I think all parents do try to impose their will on the kids. It’s normal. The kids push back. Also normal. I, for one, am TIRED of being the one holding it all...

@mcdiggety No lockers at school so yes, they don’t wear coats

@katrina2017 I agree that it should be something they want to do and not something they’re forced to do. Wdyt when there’s younger kids in the family? Is the older kid supposed to model behavior or do they get to decide at a certain age? Thanks for being respectful. It’s refreshing to hear...

@katrina2017 My kids are 16 and 9. Maybe I’m projecting but I would be lit up about this issue too if I was in a constant state of pushing family time and my teen gave me a hard time about the tree. I think OP has disappeared (lol) but that is what I was sensing in this post. Perhaps it’s a...

@katrina2017 Begrudgingly decorating the tree and following it up by telling Mom “you wasted my time” is mature? It’s rude and presumptuous to think that at 15 years old, you get to duck out of anything family related should be tolerated.

@jonvil Didn’t OP try to foster teamwork by asking her daughter to help out? She did so begrudgingly and had an attitude afterwards…

@laurapalooza She needs guidance on how to respect family time and traditions. Agree to disagree. Not every little thing that a child or teen rebuffs will create negative memories with lasting power. If it was me, I’d tell her you’re expected to participate. Let her choose what that looks like...

@christtoulese They’re inside and it’s “freezing” with the air conditioning, apparently 🤣 Temperature awareness is a constant struggle here lol

@laurapalooza All children have their own mind, desires, wishes and dreams. She is still living with her parents and needs guidance. While this wouldn’t be my particular “hill to die on,” it may be necessary in this case. If OP’s daughter is in a constant state of disrespecting family time or...

@cl870228 “you would never force an adult to decorate a tree, so why her?” But she’s not an adult, she’s 15 years old. She’s not acting mature, so why treat her as an adult?

@genii It’s not untrue that you cannot “force” an adult to do anything. Your husband is an adult. He can make his own choices. I think I would need to have a private conversation with him about being a positive influence for the kids. If he doesn’t do it, why would they? Family time is...