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@alearose I sort of agree here that yes, both parents should have a say regarding any other caregivers and who is allowed to watch their children. That's reasonable. But in this situation, it feels like the concern is less about the wellbeing of the child and more about the husband's dislike of...

@ava1453 I'm not always consistent with laundry, and for a long time I really struggled to keep up with folding. And recently our washing machine died, so now I'm trying to catch up again lol. But, the system that seems to work for me is that we have a dirty hamper in every bedroom and one in...

@sam77 It was an honest mistake, nobody's fault. It sounds like it's a newish rule about the clothing, so it's understandable that someone might not fully understand or mess up on accident. You don't have to be mad at your mom about it, and you don't have to be upset with yourself either. Just...

@sam77 Skimmed through some of the comments here and wanted to share my thoughts. First of all, the clothing thing seems like an overreaction. I mean it's 100% your choice to say "no clothing gifts," but I think cutting someone off for messing up once (and right after the cutoff point if it's...

@batman21 She says her kids kids have been fine, but I mean has she ever been in an accident while they weren't in carseats...? Anyways, that line "I did X and my kids turned out fine" always bugs me (although usually it seems to come from people with grown children). Like sure, your kids...

@monk64 Sounds like they did think about it and just decided that "parents shouldn't be relying on schools as childcare," and so it's not their problem, I guess??? Really stupid decision though.

@noiramrnslmc I can't speak to current systems (my kids aren't in school yet), but when I was growing up, I would go to a private daycare chain after school. They'd send busses to pick up the daycare kids from school (also dropped us off in the morning), and then I'd be at daycare until my mom...

@merekas It's partially financial for me, partially also just what we wanted to do. Like if the finances were there, I'd probably send my kids to part-time childcare for socialization and whatnot. When I see people online make comments about how someone can "afford to stay home," I do like to...

@naty ...wow lol. I can't imagine just not being bothered by the fact that you can't find your kid??? But I also totally understand what you're feeling. I have 2 kids and I literally keep a mental list of which parks are okay for us, and which ones are too big/spread out. I have to be able to...

@valerie60 To be fair, if your job wasn't M-F, then you'd already have issues with a regular school schedule anyway. But I think a cool system would be for 4-day weeks to be normal across the board (for jobs, school, everything), but yknow maybe instead of everyone all having the same 4 days...

@jbarl12 Oof. This snowballs for me, too. House is a mess, get depressed, less energy/motivation to clean. But with little kids it definitely is a struggle to find the right balance

@ava1453 When I have mixed loads, sometimes I will just take the clean basket around to each room and basically dig out that person's clothes, put them away, and then do the next room. Sometimes I will just throw my and my husband's clean laundry on our bed to deal with at bedtime lol.

@johnmatthewnewman I have no issue with people choosing to be child-free, but as a mom I have kind of realized that you learn a lot by having kids. Like this whole thread is saying, childless people just don't get it a lot of the time. Having children really shows you how different the...

@hyacynthia I'm sorry you had such an awful experience and that people are not supporting you now. It's just a weird stance for people to think they should have input into how many kids you have (regardless of why you don't want more). Nothing wrong with being one and done. I know it probably...

@lovethemitten Tbh all the hate on child harnesses/"leashes" is really dumb. They're a safety device, just like car seats and seat belts. But you don't see anyone saying that car seats are inhumanely restricting your child. People just get this notion that leash = dog, and thus you are...

@jdprice Yeah I really don't get why people have to act like this about birth, of all things. Even the best childbirth is still a rough experience. Everyone's story is different, everyone has a different pain tolerance, etc. I'm never going to assume that someone is just lying or...

@wh2 How do people find "mom groups"? Like I feel like this sort of thing is mentioned a lot, but I don't actually know what that is or how to join one in the real world.

@thetwister No experience with this, not an expert or lawyer or anything. I'd start by documenting any evidence of the affair that you can, with dates and times and everything. I'd imagine that during a divorce/custody/alimony process, this sort of documentation will be really helpful to your...

@katrina2017 That sounds really scary tbh. I had c-sections both times, but even I can imagine that faster is not always better when it comes to childbirth. Like...there's a reason your body gradually dilates from 0-10cm and that the whole process takes time. I dont think our bodies are really...

@shiningbrightly318 I got induced with my first, and the induction meds made contractions start coming on really fast and strong, so the doctors actually gave me medicine to stop it for a while lol.