@katrina2017 Yeah, every time my kid was even a bit fussy it would be, "Oh, he must be teething!" from about 4 months. He just got his first at 9.5 months. He has a cousin who is 3 months younger who got his at the same time. They are all on their own timetable.
@jannikitty Exactly! Like people get so obsessed with milestones. My friend and I had our babies 12 days apart. Watching how some things have been the same, but mostly completely different between their development has been crazy! Her baby got the first tooth right at 4 months, my baby is at 7 months without a tooth in sight. Which I’m fine with because I’m still nursing and honestly am not ready for that stage of our lives.
@meanstreak60 Haha with my MIL it’s “is he crawling yet??”
People just need to stop asking if baby has done X yet. It can be triggering for parents worried about things or just simply gets repetitive. Just ask, “so, anything new with baby?”
@bellahouz it's the constant "when will she start crawling/walking/talking/get teeth/etc" from my family that drives me crazy she's 6 months old just let her be a baby!!
@antiteck Not going to lie, I don’t even want to see my MIL because of it. I was already worried about my baby hitting milestones because he’s a late roller and born premature. And MIL seems to forget my baby was born 4 weeks premature. She started asking at 6 months also, whether our baby was crawling (I’m not sure where she gets this from because our niece figured out crawling at 9 months and she was overdue). He was 5 months adjusted…
@bellahouz right! like i know they're excited and want to be kept in the loop but it's not like i wouldn't mention such huge milestones to them...it's just putting pressure on LO and me and gets so frustrating. i dread the inevitable comments about autism just because my literal infant doesn't do any certain actions yet.
@antiteck Oh boy, I’d stop going over to MIL’s if she ever dared say anything like that. Just let babies be babies. They lament they grow so fast… yet they do this crap anyway!
@bellahouz I instantly become defensive and angry! My mom just asked me a couple days ago, "sleeping through the night yet?" I wasn't nice with my response.
@balaclava I totally understand this. Sleep is a touchy subject. Our family and most people we talk to are definitely obsessed with sleep and milestones.
My mom asks how many times a night does he wake up to feed, but it’s still less triggering than when MIL asks whether my baby is crawling yet.
I think it’s because my mom’s response is usually positive and reassuring, like “twice? Oh that’s not bad, he’ll get there” whereas my MIL gives no response and i think it’s because she’s comparing her two grandchildren (mine and SIL’s)
My parents can’t compare mine to my nieces (my sister’s girls) because… they’re teenagers haha
@meanstreak60 Just FYI, apparently if there are no sign of teeth by 9 months you should get LO checked by a pediatric dentist. This was according to my pediatrician. She said it’s normal, and likely fine, but she recommends it to be safe. My LO is 11.5 months and zero teeth! We have a dentist appointment today!
she's 6 months old just let her be a baby!!