Hi everyone!
Not looking for advice, just feeling sad and needed to get it off my chest.
I have 14-month old twins, “T” (f) and “D” (m). I am very fortunate that I work part-time and am home with the kids part-time. I went back to work when the kids were about 4 months. In our area, daycare for two kids under 1 was more expensive than a nanny, so we had a nanny, “L” come to our home twice a wee. She was absolutely wonderful.
L received a really serious diagnosis last month, and had to start intensive treatment immediately. She is such an amazing and kind person, but my worry and sadness for her personally is for a whole other post. I haven’t fully processed that yet.
I took off 10 days from work while looking for new childcare for my kids. I found a small home daycare that just “graduated” two kids and had room for two more. My kids started two weeks ago.
T has been doing great, as I knew she would. She’s super easy going; my husband and I always joke that we don’t know where she gets it from. D is having a harder time. When I drop him off, he cries and screams on top of his lungs. The day care owner tells me that he screams like that for about an hour till he passes out from exhaustion, then sleeps for nearly three hours (which is much longer than his usual nap). When he wakes up, he’s a bit grumpy for a bit but then he apparently gets adjusted quickly. My husband picks them up and both T and D look happy and cheerful.
I guess this is normal; it will probably take more time. I also don’t know if he’s actively thinking of L and missing her, or only missing his dad and me, or also missing being at home. He probably also finds it overwhelming that there other kids besides him and his sister and two very cute, friendly but very barky dogs. (He doesn’t show fear around them anymore.)
Anyway, just wanted to vent. It’s so hard to walk away when your baby is crying and holding his arms out for you. I hope he’s not under too much stress.
Not looking for advice, just feeling sad and needed to get it off my chest.
I have 14-month old twins, “T” (f) and “D” (m). I am very fortunate that I work part-time and am home with the kids part-time. I went back to work when the kids were about 4 months. In our area, daycare for two kids under 1 was more expensive than a nanny, so we had a nanny, “L” come to our home twice a wee. She was absolutely wonderful.
L received a really serious diagnosis last month, and had to start intensive treatment immediately. She is such an amazing and kind person, but my worry and sadness for her personally is for a whole other post. I haven’t fully processed that yet.
I took off 10 days from work while looking for new childcare for my kids. I found a small home daycare that just “graduated” two kids and had room for two more. My kids started two weeks ago.
T has been doing great, as I knew she would. She’s super easy going; my husband and I always joke that we don’t know where she gets it from. D is having a harder time. When I drop him off, he cries and screams on top of his lungs. The day care owner tells me that he screams like that for about an hour till he passes out from exhaustion, then sleeps for nearly three hours (which is much longer than his usual nap). When he wakes up, he’s a bit grumpy for a bit but then he apparently gets adjusted quickly. My husband picks them up and both T and D look happy and cheerful.
I guess this is normal; it will probably take more time. I also don’t know if he’s actively thinking of L and missing her, or only missing his dad and me, or also missing being at home. He probably also finds it overwhelming that there other kids besides him and his sister and two very cute, friendly but very barky dogs. (He doesn’t show fear around them anymore.)
Anyway, just wanted to vent. It’s so hard to walk away when your baby is crying and holding his arms out for you. I hope he’s not under too much stress.
