Should I pull my baby from daycare center?

zarvinsacdalan

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My 5 month old daughter has been in daycare since I went back to work when she was 9 weeks old. It’s a local church that has a fairly large daycare center in it and we had heard nothing but great things when we signed her up. Everywhere around here has such a long waitlist and so when a spot opened up for her we were so excited!
Myself and my MIL are the ones who drop her off and pick her up. We started noticing things that neither of us were happy about but just let it go since mistakes happen, for reference her room is all 0-6month olds and there are 6 kids in her class. (End of the day note saying she had a bottle at a certain time but also was written down that she was asleep at the time, this one has happened numerous times. Workers being on their phone when we get there and not even attending to the babies. A TV playing shows/ blaring sound everyday and the babies sitting in baby swings facing the tv to watch it. Her using other kids blankets. Sending her with 4 bottles, coming home with 2 full still but note says she drank 3?)
I’ve spoken with another mom from her class who also has an older kid at the center and they have had nothing but good experiences for him. But on Wednesday her youngest son came home with food all over his shirt and she was mad and told them to stop immediately as he should be getting nothing but milk at daycare. Well on Thursday my daughter came home with food on her clothes and I was maddddd. She has just started cereal this week at home, nothing else yet and we have neverrrr talked to her daycare about her eating food there. I have a long list of reasons this was so not okay for them to do but the main part is allergic reactions and them not even telling us they fed her/ what it was/ when. I don’t like how they handled the situation when I asked them if she was being given food at school, never even got a response to my second question from them, and they treated it like it wasn’t a big deal.
We just learned there’s an opening with a lady who does in home daycare for only a couple of kids and she’s willing to take our baby on.
Would it be over reacting to pull her from the daycare center because of the situation? If we end up not liking the inhome daycare it’s a few months long wait to get in anywhere else. Plus when this lady has appointments we’d have to figure out someone else to watch her. (Lots of pros and cons to her going there). If you were in my situation what would you do? I know not everywhere can be perfect but I’m also afraid of something worse happening at this point. Help!
 
@zarvinsacdalan Gawd, I'd be furious if my son was given food at daycare before he'd even started it with me.

Have you / can you speak to the Director of the church based daycare about your concerns? That would be my first port of call if you haven't done that already.

At the same time, can you find out more about the in-home daycare and if it would be a good fit for you?
 
@zarvinsacdalan I would be furious the moment I saw the 2 bottles, the TV but the food would have me fucking wild

This caregivers are the type of people I think they know more than you and do not respect you. I would be pulling my child out of that daycare immediately, but I say this as someone who has the financial ability to quit their job if I had to.
 
@zarvinsacdalan I pulled our kiddo from a center because I had some concerns. They were also feeding him before we were ready & giving water- all without telling us until they logged it in the app.
 
@zarvinsacdalan That doesn’t sound like the best place. From personal experience, none of that has happened at the daycares my kids have attended. There are better options! They don’t even have TVs in the infant rooms at ours. What’s the point of an infant watching TV?!
 
@zarvinsacdalan I pulled my child from a daycare that didn’t seem right. Did things that I didn’t agree with and denied it to my face. Another mom in the carpark told me that they’ve been amazing with her 6mo baby. But one day I came in early and saw her baby asleep face down on a pillow. The long line of dribble telling me he’d been there for a while. The only educator in charge I have a feeling was the director’s mother who came in to “help out”. One day I saw my son during his nap time asleep on a bouncinette (completely unsafe) also with his shoes on, OUTSIDE in winter. They told me he was fine. According the the app he’d only been awake for 1.5 hours and they were for some reason trying to get him down again, which is the only reason I saw what they were doing.

I reported them, they were investigated, and they were told if they didn’t make immediate changes then they’d likely be closed down.

Never EVER feel bad or weird for doing what is right for your baby. It’s hard, and I personally am a people pleaser, so the whole thing caused me a lot of stress. I was also worried other places were the same.

At his next daycare I asked them “oh do you guys have bouncinettes?” and the director looked aghast! She was like “absolutely not, they’re not safe!”

Like bouncinettes are for babies aged between 3-6 months pretty much, as soon as a child can roll over they should not be in them. My son was one year old at the time!

Anyway, do the right thing and don’t even feel bad for a second!!!!!!!

(Like why on earth are they playing TV for literal babies????? Why are the staff on their phones?)

All the best with switching your baby to the home carer!
 
@zarvinsacdalan TV for 0-6m?? Workers on phones who cannot even track bottles??? This church sounds like a hellhole. Pull your poor baby. Find somewhere licensed. The TV alone shows they don't give a shit. This was a highly recommended place?!?!?!
 
@zarvinsacdalan Swap your kid to at home, and sign up to a different day care wait list at the same time. That way when they have a spot open up, if you don't like way the In home is going you can change again.
But personally, for a baby that age, I like in home better. And I've had mine with one for 18m, and she's had 2 weeks off for Christmas, and three other days off either sick or family stuff. I feel like that's worth it for the fact I'd take more time off with daycare bugs from what I hear.
 
@zarvinsacdalan I’m so sorry you’re in this situation! As a parent myself with kids just about to start preschool for the first time next week, I can only imagine how infuriated I would be.

If I were in a similar situation, I’d lean heavily towards finding a different daycare. The situations you’ve described are most certainly huge red flags.

If they’re feeding you baby foods without your consent, what else could they be doing without your consent? I’ve heard stories of daycare centers going as far as administering medications to babies to make them sleep longer periods. I’m not saying this is what is happening in your situation, but definitely something to consider.

I would listen to your gut and find a place that you can trust.
 
@zarvinsacdalan I would be mad about every single thing you mentioned. I don't send my kids to daycare to watch TV and be in a container and not get bottles or get food that I don't approve of. I'd pull them, but not without talking to them first. No excuse for their behavior.
 
@zarvinsacdalan I’m so sorry. This is too many red flags. Inappropriate use of screen time and potentially inappropriate use of containers—there is a legal limit to container time, but I doubt I’d trust them to honor this given your other red flags—not giving the child their bottles, and solids without your permission.

Daycares are only as good as their staff. The center could have had excellent reviews because of the quality of staff, but that can change at the drop of a hat. I’d have a sit down with the director asap and send an email with the dates of these incidents immediately. I’d start looking elsewhere immediately since there are waitlists. Get on waitlists now in case you don’t like the in-home option. Make sure she is licensed, take a thorough tour of the home, and make sure you can speak to other parents who use her or have used her. I’d ask for 3 minimum
 
@zarvinsacdalan I would leave. If they have 6 babies in a room, I’d that with 1 staff member (1:6 ratio) or 2 staff members (1:3)? I would never put my infant in 1:6 care as an ECE, it’s way above both federal and NAEYC recommendations. But the TV, container usage, phones, and food are all problems.
 
@zarvinsacdalan I’ve had such a good experience with at home daycare that are small and intimate. The large ones disturb me cuz too much falls through the cracks. Too many kids not enough help. The small ones pay special attention, update me with daily pics and videos, she has a menu up I lucked out she was such a one. My son had issues with anger she created social stories for him to bring home. It was such an intimate care I don’t experience with larger ones. Switch it may be more expensive but peace of mind
 
@zarvinsacdalan My experience with in home daycare is that you get much more personalized care. At the daycare center I was in there were 12 infants and only 3 staff.

My baby was rarely held and couldn't sleep well. Switching to an in home daycares, she can only take 2 babies and only takes one "non walker" at a time. She has 2-3 staff depending on numbers, so my baby was held nearly 100% of the time.

We switched for similar reason, my baby was fed the wrong breastmilk and fed foods we hadn't yet tested at home. They just gave all of the kids the same foods, regardless of the feeding plan they had us complete.

That being said, all home daycares are not equal. Really make sure it will be the right fit. Home daycares don't work for everyone. Think of them as boutique mom and pop ( but just mom) business. They'll have different hours and schedules than the more commercialy run daycares, but also lots of flexibility in different ways.

Look up state liscencing to see if there have been any reports. Make sure you tour all of the areas your child would have access too. Ask how they communicate with parents. I could go on and on. When you are interviewing the daycare, ask tons of questions. If they are annoyed or overwhelmed by the questions, they are not for you. If they express appreciation for your questions and say most parents don't do that level of dillegance, there is a good chance they will be the right fit.

In your position, I would 100% not send my child back and report them to liscencing. Your child is not safe there.
 
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