@codymcg I have modi twins and developed preeclampsia at 35 weeks. I had been symptomatic prior but wasn’t technically in the range. My blood pressure usually is 100s/60s and was running 130-140s which is quite a significant increase for me but on paper still seems “safe.” I was also dizzy, short of breath, had headaches, frothy urine (indicating protein). My urine had protein but labs were only slightly elevated so they said I was ok.
Anyway! At 35 weeks I was finally in the range (had persistent blood pressures in the 140-160 range). I went to L&D for triage, was medicated and improved, so I was sent home and within a few days I went back with a really terrible headache and a blood pressure of 180s/110s. I was admitted on a Thursday, induced on Friday, and delivered Saturday morning which was our 36 week mark. No NICU time as babies did well. One weighed 5 lb 6 oz, and one was 5lb 13 oz. One twin did have low blood sugar (I also had gestational diabetes) and required dextrose gel but stabilized quickly and stayed in the room with us the whole time.
My husband helped alot in helping me stay calm. At some point there’s not much you can do, the placenta just takes over and causes these issues. My husband kept reminding me that it wasn’t my fault and there wasn’t much we could do about it other than get the babies delivered if needed. He
Also made it very clear that my health was important and as much as we wanted to help the babies by keeping them in as long as possible, my health came first.
He also supported me as I worked through the situation by acknowledging how I felt and admitting that he also felt scared and overwhelmed, but that he trusted my body and our team and if it was time, then it was time.
He also did research so that he could hit me with facts (I like evidence) when I started to get overwhelmed with the situation and needed something solid to hold onto.
You and your wife probably already know how to help the other and have done it before. Go back to those basics and apply it to this! Like I said, my husband knows statistics and facts make me feel better, so he made sure he had info so when I needed it, it was there. He also knew I was doubtful of my body and so he was very encouraging and supportive and helped me push through.
Anyway! At 35 weeks I was finally in the range (had persistent blood pressures in the 140-160 range). I went to L&D for triage, was medicated and improved, so I was sent home and within a few days I went back with a really terrible headache and a blood pressure of 180s/110s. I was admitted on a Thursday, induced on Friday, and delivered Saturday morning which was our 36 week mark. No NICU time as babies did well. One weighed 5 lb 6 oz, and one was 5lb 13 oz. One twin did have low blood sugar (I also had gestational diabetes) and required dextrose gel but stabilized quickly and stayed in the room with us the whole time.
My husband helped alot in helping me stay calm. At some point there’s not much you can do, the placenta just takes over and causes these issues. My husband kept reminding me that it wasn’t my fault and there wasn’t much we could do about it other than get the babies delivered if needed. He
Also made it very clear that my health was important and as much as we wanted to help the babies by keeping them in as long as possible, my health came first.
He also supported me as I worked through the situation by acknowledging how I felt and admitting that he also felt scared and overwhelmed, but that he trusted my body and our team and if it was time, then it was time.
He also did research so that he could hit me with facts (I like evidence) when I started to get overwhelmed with the situation and needed something solid to hold onto.
You and your wife probably already know how to help the other and have done it before. Go back to those basics and apply it to this! Like I said, my husband knows statistics and facts make me feel better, so he made sure he had info so when I needed it, it was there. He also knew I was doubtful of my body and so he was very encouraging and supportive and helped me push through.
Our OB sent us to the hospital at 34 weeks because I had elevated blood pressure and we didn’t come home until our girls were born. We found out I had preeclampsia while at the hospital and was basically told to keep my activity super low and try to relax. I was taking adalat to lower my blood pressure and trying to make it to my scheduled c-section date at 37 weeks, but didn’t. Our girls were born one minute apart by emergency c-section at 4.5lbs and 4.85lbs at 36 weeks, and we were sent home two days after they were born. Now 19 weeks and thriving! 
) Twins is a wild ride but it is so rewarding to get to know two little special humans. 