@luvgodforever Is his name really Thad? 
My colleague likes to comment on my pumping. He doesn’t know I’m going to be his boss starting in October
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@luvgodforever I don’t know why this popped up on my feed, but I want to see the update after he learns you’ll be his boss
@luvgodforever That's possibly passive aggressive behavior. Maybe not. I sometimes am oblivious to how my comments may be taken. It happens. Maybe he is trying to be friendly?
In either case, you need to address it, kindly. "Hi Thad, I notice you make comments about my activities during the day. Was this intended to be passive aggressive?"
That is usually enough to stop it. You must understand that someone who is passive aggressive are that way because they are too shy or uncomfortable to be someone who is aggressive (that's more my style, I don't do passive aggressive, I'm just aggressive, lol). So once you bring their behavior into the light for examination, they are gonna back off pretty quick. And if not, just ask politely for them to stop, but I've never found this step to be necessary.
In either case, you need to address it, kindly. "Hi Thad, I notice you make comments about my activities during the day. Was this intended to be passive aggressive?"
That is usually enough to stop it. You must understand that someone who is passive aggressive are that way because they are too shy or uncomfortable to be someone who is aggressive (that's more my style, I don't do passive aggressive, I'm just aggressive, lol). So once you bring their behavior into the light for examination, they are gonna back off pretty quick. And if not, just ask politely for them to stop, but I've never found this step to be necessary.
@luvgodforever Ha! Would love to read a follow up next week!
Thank you for providing evidence of justice in the workplace.
Thank you for providing evidence of justice in the workplace.
strivingforpeace71
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@luvgodforever That’s tough, I don’t think I could ever respect a man named Thad
katrina2017
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@luvgodforever I literally cringed at his name...I simultaneously want it to be the realest name on Reddit and hope no one is actually named that in real life. Instant ick.
samsonitebaggage
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@luvgodforever Congratulations to you 
@luvgodforever I hope you do an update post once he finds out and we can put this in r/bestofredditorupdates !
captaincarr
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@luvgodforever Of course his name is Thad
@luvgodforever Can we all just enjoy his name is Thad. It's fitting for this archetype on many levels.
@luvgodforever I'm not a mom so I hav idea wat u go thru but why is your business his business?