@driltech Simply: she’s just not up with the times.
Just to put things into a larger perspective, and spare you from the pain of forever vilifying your grandmother.
Every generation has their own rules, morals, regulations, etc. we can’t assume grandmother is bad bad bad to the bone. Every generation responds to showing care, love, confrontation and correction differently… as with any social trend. Times change.
What “goes” and is permissible today will be different in 20…40…60 years. Is that a painful pill to swallow when grandma offends, of course. Might you (and ALL of us) be in her shoes in 60 years? Yes. Gulp.
As much as you may definitively feel your grandmother’s behavior is not permissible, consider the legions and eras and generations past who are/have simply doing/done what they think/thought is right.
It’s human nature to do what’s right— I truly believe. When we consider that the confusing and conflicting paradigm that what is “right” changes with the times, maybe it’s a moment for humor and compassion. There’s nothing else we can really do about grandmas’s social protocol or programming other than accept her and help your child understand some of the first painful ironies of life: imperfect and flawed people may not be “bad”and may indeed be attempting to show love. Best of luck to you
Just to put things into a larger perspective, and spare you from the pain of forever vilifying your grandmother.
Every generation has their own rules, morals, regulations, etc. we can’t assume grandmother is bad bad bad to the bone. Every generation responds to showing care, love, confrontation and correction differently… as with any social trend. Times change.
What “goes” and is permissible today will be different in 20…40…60 years. Is that a painful pill to swallow when grandma offends, of course. Might you (and ALL of us) be in her shoes in 60 years? Yes. Gulp.
As much as you may definitively feel your grandmother’s behavior is not permissible, consider the legions and eras and generations past who are/have simply doing/done what they think/thought is right.
It’s human nature to do what’s right— I truly believe. When we consider that the confusing and conflicting paradigm that what is “right” changes with the times, maybe it’s a moment for humor and compassion. There’s nothing else we can really do about grandmas’s social protocol or programming other than accept her and help your child understand some of the first painful ironies of life: imperfect and flawed people may not be “bad”and may indeed be attempting to show love. Best of luck to you