@apor2017 Other people have commented something similar but highly recommend looking for non-competitive dance lessons locally.
I did dance for 13 years - ranging from tap, jazz, ballet, and pointe. All were non-competitive. Lessons were at a local school (in a cafeteria) and we had one recital a year. The costumes were expensive… but it helped to only have one recital a year. Some kids went all out for recitals with fancy hair and makeup, while others kept it simple with something like lip gloss. I honestly liked the recitals because it was something we worked towards every year. Although I learned a lot of body negativity from my parents, dance was not a place I learned these from.
I think it’s possible to find something that would be the right fit your child! I’d be happy if my kids weren’t interested in dance, but I want them to be active in a way they enjoy… so I’m not ruling it out completely.
Some unsolicited advice (skip if you don’t want to hear this) - consider what is so off putting to you about makeup. I would argue it isn’t inherently bad. In fact, some exposure that is low-pressure and “fun” is likely better than a strict no-makeup policy. I say this because giving extra attention to something like makeup by it being off-limits may make your child MORE interested in it. Like anything you want to have boundaries around, talking through things and exploring them with your child directly may be most effective (why people wear makeup, how some makeup feels itchy or uncomfortable on your skin, how it can be fun to play with colors or self-expression, etc.).
I did dance for 13 years - ranging from tap, jazz, ballet, and pointe. All were non-competitive. Lessons were at a local school (in a cafeteria) and we had one recital a year. The costumes were expensive… but it helped to only have one recital a year. Some kids went all out for recitals with fancy hair and makeup, while others kept it simple with something like lip gloss. I honestly liked the recitals because it was something we worked towards every year. Although I learned a lot of body negativity from my parents, dance was not a place I learned these from.
I think it’s possible to find something that would be the right fit your child! I’d be happy if my kids weren’t interested in dance, but I want them to be active in a way they enjoy… so I’m not ruling it out completely.
Some unsolicited advice (skip if you don’t want to hear this) - consider what is so off putting to you about makeup. I would argue it isn’t inherently bad. In fact, some exposure that is low-pressure and “fun” is likely better than a strict no-makeup policy. I say this because giving extra attention to something like makeup by it being off-limits may make your child MORE interested in it. Like anything you want to have boundaries around, talking through things and exploring them with your child directly may be most effective (why people wear makeup, how some makeup feels itchy or uncomfortable on your skin, how it can be fun to play with colors or self-expression, etc.).