@swallowedinthesea11 They absolutely don't, and I really don't see the upside--they think "n-word"means noob.
I get the fear that they might call another child "n-word" but it's not like they're actually saying that word--they don't even know it. The legitimate concern is that people might overhear it and there wouldn't be an opportunity to clarify the meaning, or they might use it at school and have it be taken on a way other than intended. I'd be worried about that, sure.
Presented formally it's hilarious--n-word meaning noob would be a big improvement, especially if we all reserved actually saying"noob" for when
we needed an extreme expletive.
Yeah it's problematic, but just ban the insult. Kids should be able to josh each other, but the norm around here at least seems to be banning all attempts at any kind of jab until they're at an age where they can discern ribbing and joshing fro teasing or insulting. At least IME even kids accept when you tell them a word is just off limits. If they think "noob"/"n-word" is actually so hurtful that they're going to lose tv for a year, fine, not a big loss.
Honestly, we've done deep history with the kids well ahead of what little they get in school...and I kinda think we didn't time it right, or rather that we should've been a bit more honest about what their individual abilities were to comprehend the scale of certain things and at what age they needed to be presented. I mean, I made the first three read Howard Zinn starting at 7 or 8, but with our youngest I don't really see the point anymore. He's appropriately aware for a child who has to have a childs level understanding of race and class etc so as not to be a prat; but I've got him reading anthropology instead of American history. He knows what racism is, knows about lynchings and the civil rights movement and sure we talk about what he hears about, but to understand what the n-word carries and actually have an understanding on why that particular word can only be referenced...it's just a bit much. It doesn't deny the necessity of teaching the realities of history. Second grade on, ok well they have to get the mail from the mainland eventually...but let 'em be free of it until it would be irresponsible not to. I keep it simpler with our last now, I just tell him we don't speak in ways that demean or degrade... And that people who do are trash. I'm not sure not sure if he truly cares about dehumanizing others, but I know he doesn't want to be trash.