@savedbygrace_777
So is he white? And you are a person of color? Is one of those guys that doesn’t think racism exists anymore?
Yes, yes, and not quite. More of the "gets angrier at the suggestion they might be doing something racist than the fact they might be doing something racist," the constant microaggressions and "othering." He used to get angry when I spoke in my mother tongue because I was "talking over him" until I pointed out he was equally talking over me and erasing half of my kids' heritage. Know what I mean?
Used to leave baby asleep on unsafe places (like swings, dock-a-tots). Fought and won that one but still have to make him stop lying on the couch, in the dark, at night, with baby on his stomach. "But I would never fall asleep, how come you don't trust me?"
This one is relatively minor but given his entire family has disordered eating habits, follow fad diets, and are calorie counters, I can see where this leads long-term if I don't step in at some point. He has an unhealthy relationship with food and a lot of weight yoyoing. They told me I'm on the opposite spectrum as an "intuitive eater" (whatever that means).
When the toddler was sub 1 yo he would actually fight me over providing fruits after meals because "they're sugary" (...but they're nutritious?!). And he would seesaw between providing sad boiled vegetables to chicken nuggets. I'm not asking for much, I'm just balanced meals... It wasn't a big deal but it was unnecessarily exhausting.