I am 29F and for the last few months, I’ve really been wanting to have a baby with my long term boyfriend “Kane” 36M. We’ve been together for 3 years, living together for 2 now, and are extremely happy together. We’ve been talking about getting married after I graduate school in 2026. Kane has stepped up in taking care of our house chores and caring for our 3 dogs this last year while I’ve been focused on my studies, and we have a good support system in place. I love him deeply, and I know he loves me. He supported me through recovering from the loss of my first husband, living with cPTSD and chronic illness, going back to school, and we’ve built a pretty great life together. I’ve never been so happy or felt so sure of my future than when I am with him.
The problem is, it’s not time. I’m currently finishing my pre-reqs and about to start nursing school in the fall, so I will be very busy with my studies and also continuing to work full time as a home health aide for the next two years just like this past one. Kane is also employed full time as a baker and between the two of us, we currently live a simple but comfortable lifestyle. Our bills are always paid, we go on dates, we have money for small extras and a little in savings.
I want to have a baby. I want to get pregnant, and for us to create and bring a beautiful new life into this world together. I want to be parents together, and raise good human beings who will have wonderful lives. We both want 2 kids and have talked about it at length.
But it’s not time.
I’m in nursing school full time, and we are living in our starter house we bought together 2 years ago (1300sq ft, 2bedroom, huge yard). We are financially stable, I’d say lower middle class, but that will improve once I graduate. But I still want a child badly.
We have 3 beautiful pups together, and they help to fill the ache. Kane and I met in a dog park 3 years ago, so our two 7 year old boys were already non-negotiable. We adopted a puppy together as well a year and a half ago, and we’ve learned a lot about our teaching and discipline styles, patience levels, and started our conversations around kids when we brought our babygirl home. But it doesn’t fill this yearning I have to be a mom.
I don’t know if it’s just my age. I’m 29 turning 30 in a few months, and since this past November the desire for a baby of my own has just been so strong. I’m on Depo Vera as BC to prevent pregnancy, and we are careful. I’m doing my best to feel it, and then try to make the feelings pass.
How do you guys handle the feelings? I know it’s not time. My brain is telling me wait. Finish building our stability, get married, get the bigger house. But my heart says otherwise.
The problem is, it’s not time. I’m currently finishing my pre-reqs and about to start nursing school in the fall, so I will be very busy with my studies and also continuing to work full time as a home health aide for the next two years just like this past one. Kane is also employed full time as a baker and between the two of us, we currently live a simple but comfortable lifestyle. Our bills are always paid, we go on dates, we have money for small extras and a little in savings.
I want to have a baby. I want to get pregnant, and for us to create and bring a beautiful new life into this world together. I want to be parents together, and raise good human beings who will have wonderful lives. We both want 2 kids and have talked about it at length.
But it’s not time.
I’m in nursing school full time, and we are living in our starter house we bought together 2 years ago (1300sq ft, 2bedroom, huge yard). We are financially stable, I’d say lower middle class, but that will improve once I graduate. But I still want a child badly.
We have 3 beautiful pups together, and they help to fill the ache. Kane and I met in a dog park 3 years ago, so our two 7 year old boys were already non-negotiable. We adopted a puppy together as well a year and a half ago, and we’ve learned a lot about our teaching and discipline styles, patience levels, and started our conversations around kids when we brought our babygirl home. But it doesn’t fill this yearning I have to be a mom.
I don’t know if it’s just my age. I’m 29 turning 30 in a few months, and since this past November the desire for a baby of my own has just been so strong. I’m on Depo Vera as BC to prevent pregnancy, and we are careful. I’m doing my best to feel it, and then try to make the feelings pass.
How do you guys handle the feelings? I know it’s not time. My brain is telling me wait. Finish building our stability, get married, get the bigger house. But my heart says otherwise.
