katrina2017
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@fawou This is all very true, and every child is so unique, so parental instinct is very important to follow. However, most children (even us cosleepers) do need to learn how to fall asleep on their own eventually. Say at daycare and, yes, in the car seat. Crying is almost inevitable for many, especially once you have multiple children who all go to sleep at say 7pm. For this reason it’s important to understand these techniques so parents know how to manage this. These techniques can certainly be your friend, one that you should modify to meet your family, and child’s needs.
This might be kind of silly, but consider that women are made to have many babies and only two arms to hold and feed them all. I don’t think that 5 mins of crying every night, for most 9mo.+ ish children, is necessarily unnatural. But leaving them to cry at all cost is not ideal for anyone involved. The key is to make them wait say 5 mins every single time(if 5 mins is what it usually takes you to get to them)and to verbalize to them that you’ve heard their cries. So that they can at least know what to expect. This builds trust and reduces anxiety in said situations. Ideally we could hold them all day forever, but sadly it’s not that simple.
This might be kind of silly, but consider that women are made to have many babies and only two arms to hold and feed them all. I don’t think that 5 mins of crying every night, for most 9mo.+ ish children, is necessarily unnatural. But leaving them to cry at all cost is not ideal for anyone involved. The key is to make them wait say 5 mins every single time(if 5 mins is what it usually takes you to get to them)and to verbalize to them that you’ve heard their cries. So that they can at least know what to expect. This builds trust and reduces anxiety in said situations. Ideally we could hold them all day forever, but sadly it’s not that simple.