I posted this a while back (old account, but it was me) and I just thought I'd give an update.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Shouldihaveanother/s/vjcj8xDCfQ
We are now 8 months into 2 kids! Almost 3.5 year old boy and 8 month old girl.
The best parts:
We are more relaxed and able to enjoy the baby stage more this time. We know all of the crappy parts are temporary. We aren't second guessing every little thing and googling everything.
Seeing the two kids interact is amazing. Our hearts melt when one kid is being really cute, but when they are cute together it is amplified exponentially.
We have another tiny unique human to love and adore! She is so different from her brother in so many ways. It's great to have more love in our lives. This is definitely the biggest pro. As cliche as it is, we cannot imagine our family without her.
We no longer have to live on the fence. For me this was big, because I spent 6 months agonizing over the decision. We are finally able to get rid of all of the baby stuff as she outgrows it and make plans of what we can do when they're both old enough for various vacations/ activities. My husband got a vasectomy and neither of us had to question if we would regret it.
The cons:
Starting over is a little hard when my son is able to do so much more now. We could be traveling, camping, etc. but these things are just too hard (for us) with a baby. However, we do a lot more kid activities than we did when my son was a baby, and she is just along for the ride. We still had our most fun summer yet with pool membership and trips to the amusement park because my son was finally a good age for those things.
Tied to the previous con, I feel like I'm back to counting down to when she will be older and things will be easier. Neither of us are huge baby people (if that wasn't already apparent), so I keep thinking how much better things will be in a year. Even more so than we did with my son because this time we know how fun things are as they get older.
Logistically two kids is always harder than one. I'm working around two kids' naps, bedtime, needs. I'm pretty comfortable taking both kids out by myself, but it's a lot easier to have help. I've wiped my 3 year old's bum multiple times with the baby strapped to me, and it's not a situation I enjoy having to repeat.
We're more tired than we were with one. This was a given, and I can only hope that she will sleep as well as he does one day. She's been more difficult to sleep train, but still we've made a lot of progress. Even when we get good sleep, two kids is more mentally and physically draining.
TLDR: Having 2 kids was a good decision for us. There are moments that having 2 is really hard, but not days or weeks like that.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Shouldihaveanother/s/vjcj8xDCfQ
We are now 8 months into 2 kids! Almost 3.5 year old boy and 8 month old girl.
The best parts:
We are more relaxed and able to enjoy the baby stage more this time. We know all of the crappy parts are temporary. We aren't second guessing every little thing and googling everything.
Seeing the two kids interact is amazing. Our hearts melt when one kid is being really cute, but when they are cute together it is amplified exponentially.
We have another tiny unique human to love and adore! She is so different from her brother in so many ways. It's great to have more love in our lives. This is definitely the biggest pro. As cliche as it is, we cannot imagine our family without her.
We no longer have to live on the fence. For me this was big, because I spent 6 months agonizing over the decision. We are finally able to get rid of all of the baby stuff as she outgrows it and make plans of what we can do when they're both old enough for various vacations/ activities. My husband got a vasectomy and neither of us had to question if we would regret it.
The cons:
Starting over is a little hard when my son is able to do so much more now. We could be traveling, camping, etc. but these things are just too hard (for us) with a baby. However, we do a lot more kid activities than we did when my son was a baby, and she is just along for the ride. We still had our most fun summer yet with pool membership and trips to the amusement park because my son was finally a good age for those things.
Tied to the previous con, I feel like I'm back to counting down to when she will be older and things will be easier. Neither of us are huge baby people (if that wasn't already apparent), so I keep thinking how much better things will be in a year. Even more so than we did with my son because this time we know how fun things are as they get older.
Logistically two kids is always harder than one. I'm working around two kids' naps, bedtime, needs. I'm pretty comfortable taking both kids out by myself, but it's a lot easier to have help. I've wiped my 3 year old's bum multiple times with the baby strapped to me, and it's not a situation I enjoy having to repeat.
We're more tired than we were with one. This was a given, and I can only hope that she will sleep as well as he does one day. She's been more difficult to sleep train, but still we've made a lot of progress. Even when we get good sleep, two kids is more mentally and physically draining.
TLDR: Having 2 kids was a good decision for us. There are moments that having 2 is really hard, but not days or weeks like that.
Next kid better walk at 10 months!!