I (42F) have a 7 year old and a 5 year old. My husband (46M) and I don’t have sex very often - we’re both just exhausted 99% of the time and our life circumstances are a bit challenging (another story for another day). When we do, it’s good and we always say ‘we should do this more often’ but then we just don’t. Husband is waiting on a consult for a vasectomy. As much as I’m sad about no more babies, I know we can’t handle the chaos of another, especially at our age. Anyway that’s just context.
In the last couple of years it’s been super obvious when I’m ovulating because for a day or 2 I suddenly have ridiculously horny thoughts about all attractive men
usually in the middle of the day when I’m working and can’t jump my husband.. and by evening it has usually waned as my exhaustion sets in. And whenever this happens, I check my period app and say “oh look, cycle day 16 or 17. How predictable of me.” And then get on with my day.
Right after my last period, like cycle day 7/8, I had some random increased libido. My husband and I ended up having sex on CD8. We took no precautions, because we had trouble getting pregnant with 1 and 2 even making a concerted effort with ov tests etc and coming right off my period it didn’t seem even remotely risky. I basically forgot about it by a couple days later, that’s how not-concerned I was.
Fast forward to today. I was working, and thinking, huh, I haven’t had my (not at all) rando horny days yet, that must be coming up. Check my period app. Cycle day 23, oh that’s weird it should have been like a week ago.
And then suddenly I am googling early ovulation, and seeing that in your early 40s early ovulation is more likely to happen.
Going by my normal cycle length, my period isn’t due for another 6ish days, but if I ovulated on CD 8, or even 9, I’m due now or maybe even already late.
I should probably take a test, but I also don’t want to make myself even more neurotic. Because I will be that person taking a test twice a day until my period shows or a second line does. So instead I’m posting here so someone can tell me that I’m being ridiculously paranoid and it’s fine, or tell me that their sister’s friend’s hairdresser had this happen and ended up pregnant so I can start legitimately panicking because we don’t live in a state where termination is no longer safe and obtainable.
Thanks y’all.
In the last couple of years it’s been super obvious when I’m ovulating because for a day or 2 I suddenly have ridiculously horny thoughts about all attractive men
usually in the middle of the day when I’m working and can’t jump my husband.. and by evening it has usually waned as my exhaustion sets in. And whenever this happens, I check my period app and say “oh look, cycle day 16 or 17. How predictable of me.” And then get on with my day. Right after my last period, like cycle day 7/8, I had some random increased libido. My husband and I ended up having sex on CD8. We took no precautions, because we had trouble getting pregnant with 1 and 2 even making a concerted effort with ov tests etc and coming right off my period it didn’t seem even remotely risky. I basically forgot about it by a couple days later, that’s how not-concerned I was.
Fast forward to today. I was working, and thinking, huh, I haven’t had my (not at all) rando horny days yet, that must be coming up. Check my period app. Cycle day 23, oh that’s weird it should have been like a week ago.
And then suddenly I am googling early ovulation, and seeing that in your early 40s early ovulation is more likely to happen.
Going by my normal cycle length, my period isn’t due for another 6ish days, but if I ovulated on CD 8, or even 9, I’m due now or maybe even already late.
I should probably take a test, but I also don’t want to make myself even more neurotic. Because I will be that person taking a test twice a day until my period shows or a second line does. So instead I’m posting here so someone can tell me that I’m being ridiculously paranoid and it’s fine, or tell me that their sister’s friend’s hairdresser had this happen and ended up pregnant so I can start legitimately panicking because we don’t live in a state where termination is no longer safe and obtainable.
Thanks y’all.