melissa517
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My kid, "C.", turned 18 in January is graduating high school in June. She is a good kid and salutatorian of her class. Her bio dad comes from a different culture, and has always been hard on her. I knew C. was gay when she was 9 years old, so it didn't suprise me when she came out to me at 13. While she never came out to her dad, he was pretty angry about how she dressed/did her hair/types of friends she had, and they were in constant conflict. By the time she was 14, he just stopped picking her up for his custody and parenting time. He texts occasionally, but also guilts her over text. They've seen each other twice in the past three years: once we met at the post office to do her passport for a summer camp, the other time I asked her to invite him and her half-siblings to a performance she was doing. That was in fall 2021, they haven't seen each other since. In February, C. got a text that her paternal grandfather was very ill. C. loves her dad's family, so she drove to the hospital to be her grandfather. She texted her dad every few days after that but he didn't respond. Last week, her dad texted her and asked when graduation was. C. asked how her grandfather was, and was told that he died in March. C. was very upset, sobbing, and blocked her dad on her phone. She's a legal adult, her dad does't pay child support and isn't helping us pay for college, so I didn't argue with her about it. Today her dad texted me asking when graduation is and where C. is going to college. I don't know what to do. I'm not going to tell him how to get graduation tickets, as C. clearly doesn't want him there. But I feel badly not answering him. What should I do?