@yuliia I mean something that helped me when I felt overwhelmed by crying, etc. I told myself he didn't ask to be here, and if he's crying, he's not being vindictive or spiteful. He just needs something, and I don't think I had any violent thought and I definitely haven't cried since the day I saw him, but I've had thoughts of regret or walking out and leaving him for just a few minutes, even feeling numb and watching him cry. It was tough for me. My husband passed. i also have three animals, and he was born in November, and where i live, they set off fireworks for ANYTHING. I heard them all through December and early January it was so hard!
Especially with a nervous dog, it seemed like whenever i put him down something or someone would wake him up and he'd cry, just intense wailing, and i had to walk sround for almost two-four hours sometimes to put him back to sleep. The minimum was definitely 45 mins to an hour. I wasn't eating enough and bssically doing intense exercise after my C section that i got an infection.. twice and lost almost 40 pounds in the 1st month, when i only gained 7 the entire pregnancy i was doing it. It was this entire thing about my health. He didn't have a defined sleep schedule, well, any schedule period. I couldn't even use the bathroom.
I had no real support, besides comments like "you can do it" etc. I'm not ungrateful for those, but I needed ACTUAL help and support, i couldn't sleep, and I hate that i had those thoughts or did those things. But I learned to shake myself out of it and tell myself it's not his fault and it's not mine. I was told babies can feel your emotions, so I didn't want him absorbing or feeling my negativity because he would cry more.. I'm not sure if thsts true, but I treated like it was. I think it gets better after the first 5-6 weeks, and even later, if the crying starts, once you see them smile, you forget all about it. My son is 3 months old and has a much better sleep schedule. His naps and his feedings are pretty regular now. I get more sleep, etc. Eventually, you figure it out, just try to support her, and KNOW it won't be like this for too longI hope she feels better. That’s all the help I can offer. Good luck to you both.