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I’m so excited to be able to see her on the ultrasound (we did a blood test early to determine gender) but I’m also fucking terrified because I’m so scared that the doctor might find something wrong with her. As far as I know, there’s no major hereditary health issues in both of our families...

My s/o can get paid leave but he doesn’t want to take time off just because it’s not full pay. I don’t think he understands how hard it will be for me right after giving birth and he always talks like I can handle everything —like even telling me to go back to work after 3 months lol. There...

Hi folks, Expectant first time dad (early June due date for a little boy) in the UK. Just wondering how much we need to realistically have saved to get the essential baby items/nappies/clothes etc. We have just moved to a house (previously living in a 2 bedroom apartment) and had to make...

Mom and myself talked about baby names before she was even pregnant. We had a full name chosen. All was perfect. A few months later after a cruise, we found out we were pregnant. OK! GAME TIME! Life is happening and I’m super excited... It’s my first biological child. The name for our child...

Dear Dads, Tomorrow is Mother’s Day. While you should be celebrating your own mom, don’t forget to also celebrate your wife, who is also a mother now. This job will fall on you for many years until your kids are at least teenagers. There are two reasons you should be doing this: You’ll be...

First time dad here, to a 7.5 month-old boy. Lately our little guy (”H”) has been exhibiting some behaviors that have me wondering if I should be concerned. This is all new to me, so I’m not quite sure where the line between “that’s just a baby being quirky” and “that’s a developmental red flag...

Where to begin? I suppose I can start with what I’m feeling, though it’s hard to qualify. Grief is probably one of the words, but also confusion, helplessness, frustration, impatience. Normally, I don’t spend a lot of time with those emotions. I am the person you know who can be...

My wife (37) and I (40) suffered a miscarriage this weekend. I was prepared but it suddenly happened at 8 1/2 weeks and it still rocked us. The worst part is, I happened to be traveling and I couldn’t be there for my wife. For eight weeks, I kept my excitement and my expectations low, and...

Hi all -- Lurking soon-to-be dad here. First of all, I can't put into words how much I have enjoyed spending time in this sub. It has been a lifesaver so far. This community has connected me with some fantastic resources. I have also loved how everyone here is so supportive. That said, I am...

Hi all, I’m due in October FTM and I want to know the best ways that I can involve my partner in all the things to help him get into dadding as best as possible. Some of my biggest concerns are I’ll assume he can read my mind and know what I need immediately, as well as I’ll try to take over...

Question, have you and your SO talked about getting vaccinated while pregnant? Thoughts and comments welcome. Thanks Edit: We want to say THANK YOU for those of you that weighed in. We appreciate it very much.

just wanted to share my excitement, we told our parents this past weekend and i’m just through the roof stoked. my wife is 9 weeks today, so it’s still early, but things are already changing around the house. our first baby, my parents being grandparents, hers as well, everything is awesome...

Hello everybody. Me (33m) and my s/o (33f) have been together almost 6 years and she’s now about 8 weeks pregnant. Starting a family has always been our plan but now she’s just so sad. I don’t know what to do. She’s so depressed and is unsure about even wanting kids. I’m just being completely...

So I went out last night with my wife’s brother, and my best mate. It was originally only meant to be 1 or 2 pints in by 10pm. We were in by 10 but there was 7 pints instead of 2 needless to say I was steaming. My wife went into the other room because she said she knew I was going to be sick...

My wife has had 5 m/c (1 at 14 weeks with an untested embryo that ended up having trisomy 18). We went back and did a second round of IVF, she had a chemical pregnancy with the first embryo and then we put two in at once and one stuck. We're at 12 weeks, the embryo was PGT tested and came back...

Hello, My baby is going to be 8 months old at the end of April. We have had a hard time feeding f her basically from 4 months on. The only way she will eat a bottle is if she is watching the t.v (we dont do a lot of t.v besides whwn we try and feed her). We have tried feeding her puree food and...

After having a baby in early 2023, I made a list of learnings and recommendations for friends/acquaintances who'd asked for baby advice. Definitely non-exhaustive and all my personal opinion (I don't get any commissions or anything), but I wish I found something like this list when I was...

We went to our 18 week appointment yesterday stoked to find out the gender of our baby and were given the worst news ive ever received. our baby passed away in utero sometime within the last two weeks since we heard the heartbeat at our 16 week appointment. Our baby was delivered at 1:45 am...

So we have the graco 4-in-1 and the mattress pad it came with is exactly that, a pad, not really a mattress. Like the pad you get in elementary school for nap time, but bassinet size lol. When my baby starts to roll, should I switch to an actual mattress from graco? The pad isn’t breathable so...

Currently my 8 m/o is following doing 3 nap day with a 7 oz bottle at the beginning every wake window. We’re planning on dropping a naps in the next week or so. Looking for suggestions on how to shift her feedings to maintain roughly 30oz a day with only 3 wake windows. She handles the 7oz...