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@wsmasri This is it. My son is 17, and as the only parent I wish I could take the easy route and have him drive, but he’s shown he’s not ready yet. I’ve told him prior that if he doesn’t wear a seatbelt or enforce others to (his responsibility as a driver) that I will revoke my parental...

@pastorpontibus Yes, this is my hope too, that he will learn- just on someone else and his own experience and not cause me suffering haha but isn’t that what we dream of for all things our teens do to terrorize us. I am so exhausted and frustrated with the hanger.

@thecrossingatcypress Omg so sad but so real.

@michaelo Yes, these sorts of food choices are what happen and I should probably let that part go entirely, WHAT the content is, as long as he’s sometimes having protein. How do not get triggered by their meanness or hanger? I think I don’t mind that as much, but he will refuse other...

@katrina2017 We mostly eat as a family but sometimes we don’t even get to that point before he’s falling apart, as I get home an hour after him and then still need to cook.

@ajhnh I agree. I don’t know, I’m hoping he will see the benefit and accept the reality of needing to contribute financially. I do need him to take responsibility for his choices! Right now our bill is at $750. I looked at his school tracking yesterday- he’s had so many extra sessions put on...

@emmanuel330990 He won’t. It’s just dealing with the Hanger in the meantime that is exhausting. We need like an easy photo based cookbook for him. I’m imagining like hello fresh meal kit style recipes but in a book.

@uneze This is part of my issue. Feeling like I do it all. And then not letting things go when I ought yo

@musicman61 It is a private school- the district transports him there because they lacked the resources to support him locally. They pay for everything except for the classes that exceed the number of initially scheduled sessions. The only reason he has make up sessions is literally because of...

@tiger65 Yes. But a non stimulant. Sometimes I wonder if we should try a stimulant again.

@vonhelton SO frustrating! I have had to stop buying ice cream for this reason. I made a rule that we have it less often but when we do have it we go out for it.

@bear78 Yes, unfortunately we are well past all of that. Th county won’t come out for mental health calls (did I mention we’re underresourced?) and will only help if I am willing to press charges. They literally will do nothing for a violent teen unless I want to press charges. They won’t take...

@vonhelton Well, at least I’m not alone, but this is essentially EXACTLY what I deal with. I’m sorry.

@ajhnh It is childish and petty, and you’re right he needs more control over his life. It’s tough when he’s not one to manage himself or his time. He’s been on spring break for a week and goes back to school tomorrow, I had hounded him at the beginning of the week to just knock the work out, he...

@joseph92 It’s all good, this is definitely what we are dealing with! I am hoping to build up my actionable strategy when he is escalated or to prevent escalation

My son is 17 and is 6’2”. He’s tall and needs a lot of food to sustain. YET! The kid doesn’t take any responsibility for making sure he is fed, and I suffer from it. When he doesn’t eat, he’s an absolute pill and can be quite mean. When I’m able to identify this and feed him it can be a 10-15...

@walter45 Oh!! Well we need more involved dads like you in the world. Thank you for being there for your kids.

@walter45 I’m sorry mama. It’s so hard. I do think they have to learn the hard way at some point, like oh, if I am disrespectful to others, they won’t help me anymore. So there’s a balance of us also sticking by our boundaries and prioritizing ourselves. It’s just hard to watch them flounder.

@walter45 Thank you so much. Yes, it’s a lot like ODD. I thought maybe we had moved out of that territory, but I realize it’s like an abusive relationship, when someone says “oh, but he’s been better lately” when the cycle is at its peak. He has another year of school. In some ways he is very...

@sammy707 Yes! This is real and definitely something we deal with. It’s hard to shift out of control into loving willingness.