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@katrina2017 I was coming here to say the same thing. My daughter is gifted and a perfectionist. It has been a lifelong struggle but the thing that I think helped the most was her learning an instrument. They are granted permission to start off terrible because no one is born knowing how to play...

@kingdomculture Thanks. I wish I could say that was the one and only time, but unfortunately that hasn't been the case. A few years ago my son was at a wrestling meet and overheard a dad ask his son how he lost to a n-word. My son had just finished beating that kid so he knew it was about him...

@utay62 At 2 years old your son may not be ready for an organized gymnastics class. There is no shame in that. Some kids can handle it and some can not. You handled it the right way by removing him from a situation he could not succeed in. I don't yell or punish. We have rules and set limits...

@shellydan8 My son first heard it in preschool. I was driving him and his sister home and he asked, "Daddy, what a n-word" (he used the actual word). I was so shocked I nearly stopped short. I asked him where he heard that from and he said, "Joey isn't allowed to play with me anymore because his...

@leahfeamw It builds so much confidence. With my kids I found that when they got a new privilege they were desperate to prove that they could handle it. We had a "handle it or I will handle it for you" rule when my kids were little. When we started allowing them new responsibilities (staying...

@uncle_ayman My son is biracial/black and we had the n-word talk after he was called it in preschool, but this was the kind of talk I didn't have an answer for. Talking about racism was hard but manageable. Talking about the more casual use of the n-word was out of my depth. I ended up...

@superjohn112 Getting the parents involved can go poorly if the parents are the ones passing this shit down to their kids. My son was called the n-word for the first time in preschool. Yes, preschool. He was a 4 years old and his friend said they can't play together anymore because his daddy...

@snaptikappmefr I am glad it helped. This is also when we started playing the "worst case scenario" game. Worst case scenario was mom and dad both dying so we addressed what the next steps would be. We were able to apply this to just about anything. Whenever they were having fears or anxieties...

@rengb121 An alternative is to pull out a mattress or blankets and camp out in the family room. When my kids were younger we would do a movie night every Friday. We would pull out the blowup mattress, make blanket forts, and have a slumber party. It isn't your bed so that might make him less...

@snaptikappmefr The Mr. Rodgers episode on death is really good. I can't recommend it enough. My kids had a preschool classmate die tragically in an accident. The school handled it by showing the Mr. Rodgers video and then the parents of the deceased boy came in to talk to the kids about their...