I hope this issue fits the sub, I wanted to see what the rest of the world thinks.
Our son was born 5 weeks ago. We said no visits for the first 2 weeks, partly because I was having c section. Both of our parents were unhappy, but they respected it.
The day he was born we texted each of our respective families and friends, the closest people called, others congratulated via text, voice or video message. My parents and sister were over the moon and request daily updates lol. My extended family is also like that. After 2 weeks my mother flew in (we live in different countries) and stayed with us for a week.
So far so good. My husband got a lot of calls too, so I assumed some of them were from his family. He has 3 siblings and a mom (father's dead), as well as a grandmother, aunt and uncle (as you can see, not too many people). Well after 5 weeks his mom finally showed up. She lives 1,5 hours car ride away. Turns out my husband invited her 3x already, she turned him down each time. AND.NONE.OF.THEM.CALLED.ONCE. According to her, he was supposed to call each one of them so they can congratulate and they all agree on this. They are all pissed now, because he only texted them. We think that they were supposed to call him/us (nobody asked how I am healing either). Normally people call you e.g. for your birthday, not the other way around. As a matter of fact, few days after our son was born, my husband had his own birthday, no calls either.
What the hell is going on here? Is this normal behavior? We live in Germany, we're Germans, is this some sort of cultural thing that we still missed?
My mother says that she never heard of such a "rule". Guys, what do you think? Wtf?
Our son was born 5 weeks ago. We said no visits for the first 2 weeks, partly because I was having c section. Both of our parents were unhappy, but they respected it.
The day he was born we texted each of our respective families and friends, the closest people called, others congratulated via text, voice or video message. My parents and sister were over the moon and request daily updates lol. My extended family is also like that. After 2 weeks my mother flew in (we live in different countries) and stayed with us for a week.
So far so good. My husband got a lot of calls too, so I assumed some of them were from his family. He has 3 siblings and a mom (father's dead), as well as a grandmother, aunt and uncle (as you can see, not too many people). Well after 5 weeks his mom finally showed up. She lives 1,5 hours car ride away. Turns out my husband invited her 3x already, she turned him down each time. AND.NONE.OF.THEM.CALLED.ONCE. According to her, he was supposed to call each one of them so they can congratulate and they all agree on this. They are all pissed now, because he only texted them. We think that they were supposed to call him/us (nobody asked how I am healing either). Normally people call you e.g. for your birthday, not the other way around. As a matter of fact, few days after our son was born, my husband had his own birthday, no calls either.
What the hell is going on here? Is this normal behavior? We live in Germany, we're Germans, is this some sort of cultural thing that we still missed?
My mother says that she never heard of such a "rule". Guys, what do you think? Wtf?