My LO is 5 months. At bedtime I put him in his crib because I stay up a few hours later than him. When I go to sleep, I sleep on a floor bed in the nursery. In the morning he usually wakes up around 5am and falls asleep while nursing in our floor bed. I then either transfer him back to the crib or fall back asleep with him in C shape until about 8.
I keep our sleeping habits secret from everyone I know except my mother (she coslept with me and my sister) and my husband. At what age do American studies show that it is safe? Or when does the stigma stop?? I know about all the studies that say don’t sleep with them but I can’t find anything that says “okay you’re good now”
I don’t care about people thinking he’s spoiled for sleeping with me- I only care about family (especially on my husbands side) thinking I’m putting him in danger and this harboring hatred towards me. I just feel so uncomfortable lying.
Also, my husband is a medical provider and has seen babies pass away in the ER or come in after being smothered or trapped so he is very nervous about this too. I try to understand where he’s coming from because I can only imagine how hard it is to see that or be the one to tell the parents. So I guess a sub-question is when will our LO be able to sleep with both of us? Maybe there are studies about this I can share with him? We miss sleeping in the same bed.
I keep our sleeping habits secret from everyone I know except my mother (she coslept with me and my sister) and my husband. At what age do American studies show that it is safe? Or when does the stigma stop?? I know about all the studies that say don’t sleep with them but I can’t find anything that says “okay you’re good now”
I don’t care about people thinking he’s spoiled for sleeping with me- I only care about family (especially on my husbands side) thinking I’m putting him in danger and this harboring hatred towards me. I just feel so uncomfortable lying.
Also, my husband is a medical provider and has seen babies pass away in the ER or come in after being smothered or trapped so he is very nervous about this too. I try to understand where he’s coming from because I can only imagine how hard it is to see that or be the one to tell the parents. So I guess a sub-question is when will our LO be able to sleep with both of us? Maybe there are studies about this I can share with him? We miss sleeping in the same bed.
. I get flak from my ped, my friends, and different family members. ‘Oh I could NEVER put MY baby in HARMS WAY like THAT’ or ‘well didn’t you research/read/get told that you’ll smother the baby?’ ‘Don’t they teach you in the hospital that cosleeping will kill your baby?’ At this point I don’t care what they think, she’s never fallen off the bed, never gotten herself close to a situation where she could smother herself, and I have insomnia and am a VERY light sleeper. I know it’s what’s best for my family but I don’t talk about it openly unless asked outright anymore