@ricksmith You aren’t doing anything wrong. His faults are not yours.
This is the way I look at child support:
Should my child’s father contribute to his necessities and quality of life? Obviously. Can I make him? No. What he does only reflects on him and our child isn’t stupid. He will see this for himself one day and my ex is shooting himself in the foot. Fine.
So all of that in mind, I NEVER rely on that money. I make sure we will always be comfortable without it. I am the sole provider. IF I get anything from his dad it’s a bonus and increases my emergency savings/our present quality of life. It gets split equally into my savings account and our recreational money.
My ex is more than $25k in arrears. Another 4K with extracurricular expenses and health expenses. I don’t know the actual amount because I don’t bother checking. I don’t expect to get it unless he wins the lottery.