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Just as the title states I’m honestly trying to figure out if I am OAD or would like a second baby. My birth was a traumatic experience and quite honestly I don’t know if I want to risk doing it all again.
My first pregnancy started out great, no major symptoms (just regular things- nausea, food aversion, fatigue) and stayed normal until my third trimester. During which I developed Cholestasis. If you’re unfamiliar, it’s a condition in which my liver stopped being able to properly filter toxins so bile was ending up in my blood stream. Besides being the most physically uncomfortable I have ever been (a few weeks of uncomfortable itching with no relief especially at night), if liver enzymes are high enough it could result in stillborns. I brought up the itching with my OB and she scheduled an induction at 37 weeks.
Anyone who has had an induced labor can probably tell you that it’s a 0/10 experience. I was in labor for 30 hours and pushed for 3. Probably five-ish hours into labor, I developed preeclampsia and the doctors told me I was at seizure and stroke risk. I was put on magnesium which kicked my butt and made me feel like I was run over again and again for the next 20+ hours.
Preeclampsia was and still is a huge fear of mine. I watched my sister and her struggle with it which resulted in her first baby being born at 32 weeks and a two month stay in the NICU. Her second she had to be on medicine and bed rest the entirety of her pregnancy so they could monitor and control when he went into labor.
I fully realize my brief bout with preeclampsia is not on that level, but it’s terrifying that it could be next time. Both the preeclampsia and cholestasis have increased chances I will have it again since I had it with my son. I can’t help butbe afraid of what a second pregnancy could look like for me or the second baby. Or even especially if I develop cholestasis earlier, I will be in misery being touched by my current son and that seems incredibly unfair to him.
I’d just like some perspective from people who have experienced traumatic births first or second hand and why or why not you had a second baby. How did you weight out the risks?
Just as the title states I’m honestly trying to figure out if I am OAD or would like a second baby. My birth was a traumatic experience and quite honestly I don’t know if I want to risk doing it all again.
My first pregnancy started out great, no major symptoms (just regular things- nausea, food aversion, fatigue) and stayed normal until my third trimester. During which I developed Cholestasis. If you’re unfamiliar, it’s a condition in which my liver stopped being able to properly filter toxins so bile was ending up in my blood stream. Besides being the most physically uncomfortable I have ever been (a few weeks of uncomfortable itching with no relief especially at night), if liver enzymes are high enough it could result in stillborns. I brought up the itching with my OB and she scheduled an induction at 37 weeks.
Anyone who has had an induced labor can probably tell you that it’s a 0/10 experience. I was in labor for 30 hours and pushed for 3. Probably five-ish hours into labor, I developed preeclampsia and the doctors told me I was at seizure and stroke risk. I was put on magnesium which kicked my butt and made me feel like I was run over again and again for the next 20+ hours.
Preeclampsia was and still is a huge fear of mine. I watched my sister and her struggle with it which resulted in her first baby being born at 32 weeks and a two month stay in the NICU. Her second she had to be on medicine and bed rest the entirety of her pregnancy so they could monitor and control when he went into labor.
I fully realize my brief bout with preeclampsia is not on that level, but it’s terrifying that it could be next time. Both the preeclampsia and cholestasis have increased chances I will have it again since I had it with my son. I can’t help butbe afraid of what a second pregnancy could look like for me or the second baby. Or even especially if I develop cholestasis earlier, I will be in misery being touched by my current son and that seems incredibly unfair to him.
I’d just like some perspective from people who have experienced traumatic births first or second hand and why or why not you had a second baby. How did you weight out the risks?
