Sorry, this is long.
I dont know what to think of it so I am asking for advice please. There was a situation today between my 14 year old son and his classroom colleague (not really a buddy/friend). I didnt know anything about it until I got a message late evening from the other boy's Dad. So I called back. The story goes like this: the boy x cursed to my son in a private chat in a group on discort private group. And my son recorded him swearing (just the boy's voice) and posted it in the group. The boy x is the admin of the group. His dad is clearly upset by the fact his son had been upset for few hours (apparently he was). So, now his dad wants to plan on sorting sth out, that he is not letting it lay around. I am totally confused as these boys are bloody 14, should talk this through between themselves. My son has never ever had any social life problems, he is a funny and popular boy, very mentally tough and resilient too (which he built such skill but not letting mommy or daddy solving his problems for him) . What he did was a form of f...cking around, pranking another boy for swearing. "Bullying" problem comes to my mind but his intentions weren't to hurt anyone. I am just afraid the other parent is overprotective and will try to sort this situation his way. I really cant understand where the big problem is, my son said everyone in the group were chill about it and nothing really happened. I remember being teenager we would always do such things to each other. Maybe I am twisted or a bad parent, I get it that it wasn't the best prank but I dont really hink the other boy is not as bodered by this as much as his father appears to be..so I would love to hear your opinions. Bare in mind we are in eastern europe culture and my boy is mentally more British then eastern European (we moved out of UK 2 years ago) Shall I punish my son for doing what he thought in his teen crazy mind was fun, pranky kinda spur of a moment. I talked with him, explained not everyone is as brave or tough and that the other kid was probably ashamed but for Christ Sake, why did that boy not communicated it straight with my son and instead hid his head in the sand. If you think you are adult enough to swear be adult enough to admit to it, therefore there would be no issue. He is basically depressed everyone in the group heard him swearing. I am lost and been analysing it for over 2 hours. Shattered.
I dont know what to think of it so I am asking for advice please. There was a situation today between my 14 year old son and his classroom colleague (not really a buddy/friend). I didnt know anything about it until I got a message late evening from the other boy's Dad. So I called back. The story goes like this: the boy x cursed to my son in a private chat in a group on discort private group. And my son recorded him swearing (just the boy's voice) and posted it in the group. The boy x is the admin of the group. His dad is clearly upset by the fact his son had been upset for few hours (apparently he was). So, now his dad wants to plan on sorting sth out, that he is not letting it lay around. I am totally confused as these boys are bloody 14, should talk this through between themselves. My son has never ever had any social life problems, he is a funny and popular boy, very mentally tough and resilient too (which he built such skill but not letting mommy or daddy solving his problems for him) . What he did was a form of f...cking around, pranking another boy for swearing. "Bullying" problem comes to my mind but his intentions weren't to hurt anyone. I am just afraid the other parent is overprotective and will try to sort this situation his way. I really cant understand where the big problem is, my son said everyone in the group were chill about it and nothing really happened. I remember being teenager we would always do such things to each other. Maybe I am twisted or a bad parent, I get it that it wasn't the best prank but I dont really hink the other boy is not as bodered by this as much as his father appears to be..so I would love to hear your opinions. Bare in mind we are in eastern europe culture and my boy is mentally more British then eastern European (we moved out of UK 2 years ago) Shall I punish my son for doing what he thought in his teen crazy mind was fun, pranky kinda spur of a moment. I talked with him, explained not everyone is as brave or tough and that the other kid was probably ashamed but for Christ Sake, why did that boy not communicated it straight with my son and instead hid his head in the sand. If you think you are adult enough to swear be adult enough to admit to it, therefore there would be no issue. He is basically depressed everyone in the group heard him swearing. I am lost and been analysing it for over 2 hours. Shattered.