She just turned 4…

[chamtt]

& I swear I just look at her and think dang - where the heck did this enjoyable thing come from?! I feel the past 4 years I have been unable to connect easily and E N J O Y her because the tantrums were NUTS and so constant. I’m so happy to be at this point and stage but I also feel sad kind of, like man I hope I made the most of it… suddenly I realize that is all over phew. Mind blown she’s 4…

 

[katrina2017]

@chamtt That’s so great that it’s feeling better! My son’s almost 4 and I think the shit is just hitting the fan. Enjoy being on the other side (until the next developmental storm haha).

 

[butterflies]

@katrina2017 My son is 3.5 and I’ve started struggling again so this post and your comments are making me feel heard.

Thank you

 

[godgirl13]

@butterflies also have a 3.5yo and can confirm that this age suuuuuucks

 

[butterflies]

@godgirl13 I feel like such a bad mum but fucking hell if I get one more car thrown at me, or screamed at for looking at him…. I might just walk out and strike

 

[godgirl13]

@butterflies mine is on a steroid protocol for croup and it’s been hell. he’s been awake since 3am. well, i’ve been awake. he’s napped. i fear the night.

 

[butterflies]

@godgirl13 My thoughts are with you.

My son woke up at 4am every day for at least 3 months.

My husband and I woke every day saying “when will this nightmare end”

The coup shall end and I hope you get a glorious slumber when it does

 

[godgirl13]

@butterflies we have a sleep consultant starting next week so hopefully good sleep is on the way!

 

[butterflies]

@godgirl13 I’ll keep my fingers crossed for uou

 

[jamesharvey39571]

@katrina2017 Oh hey fellow bumper, was just thinking oh boy my son is almost 4 this post feels super relevant right now after a 30 minute screaming match this evening.

 

[katrina2017]

@jamesharvey39571 Haha our dailies over on the bumper group are all off the wall right now

 

[megannovybaker]

@chamtt This is so encouraging. Ours is currently 3yrs 6m and while it's getting easier, it's still been tough.

 

[lgonz]

@chamtt That's about the age I had the very same thought. Mine is now 17, and, I can assure you, the saying about how the days are long and the years are short is absolutely true.

 

[987abc]

@chamtt So tantrums stop when they are 4 good to know lol

 

[rob84]

@987abc As a mom to a 4 yo I can definitely say that tantrums most definitely do not go away lol. But (at least for us) they are a lot more manageable than when she was 2 and was incapable of being reasoned with. I mean, even now at four it’s touch and go with reasoning with her but most of the time it’s not too bad!

 

[soviabef]

@chamtt Ha! I had the opposite. The day she turned 4 and we were on the way to her favorite restaurant she had an absolute meltdown because I took her out of her car seat instead of her dad. Like lying down on the sidewalk screaming while people passed us with a wide berth. Now that she’s 4.5 things are a bit easier but whoa. 4. Haha

 

[araina]

@soviabef Same!!! Mine turns 5 in June and I feel like we’re starting to come out of it. 4 was rough.

 

[warriorcatsbooklover]

@chamtt I was watching my 16 month old run around and play. Just admiring her and trying to tire her out before bed.

Then she let out a random screech and wailed.

Damn nature.

 

[forgivenkali]

@chamtt I am hopeful reading your post. There have been tantrums lately … and I just feel like I’m doing something wrong. It’s nice to know they’re normal & I’m not alone. Little man is 3.

 

[fullofeyes37]

@chamtt I also have a Feb 2020 girl and she is awesome. Her tantrums have never been like some that I think other people deal with. But 4 is so much fun because she is just becoming more of a human!