@forgivenandloved It's all about perspective.
Your husband's feelings are legitimate and your relationship with him is important to continue attachment parenting... From a pragmatic perspective, sometimes compromise is necessary. If your relationship deteriorates significantly, you could be looking at unhappiness as parents or even seperation. It's easy to lose sight of your relationship needs when our child's needs are always present and so obvious (wahhh), but our relationships need tending too.
I made the mistake of solely prioritizing my daughter over our relationship and it suffered (though we've survived it). I realized only after making time for my partner that I craved all the things he did, and needed that time just as badly but it wasn't even something I considered for the longest time.
So how can you adjust things to make this work? Discuss with your husband to come to a compromise and make sure he feels heard and loved. Can you move your mattress to the floor to lessen the risks and anxiety associated with falling? If not, get a video monitor (it helped with my anxiety a lot and made it so I wasn't chained to the bedroom as I adjusted). Add later upon layer of safety barriers so your daughter would wake up before rolling off the bed. I put a line of action figures that would be super uncomfortable to roll over plus some firm foam pillows on either side of the mattress. My daughter is just over 2 and it works great.
You've got this!
Your husband's feelings are legitimate and your relationship with him is important to continue attachment parenting... From a pragmatic perspective, sometimes compromise is necessary. If your relationship deteriorates significantly, you could be looking at unhappiness as parents or even seperation. It's easy to lose sight of your relationship needs when our child's needs are always present and so obvious (wahhh), but our relationships need tending too.
I made the mistake of solely prioritizing my daughter over our relationship and it suffered (though we've survived it). I realized only after making time for my partner that I craved all the things he did, and needed that time just as badly but it wasn't even something I considered for the longest time.
So how can you adjust things to make this work? Discuss with your husband to come to a compromise and make sure he feels heard and loved. Can you move your mattress to the floor to lessen the risks and anxiety associated with falling? If not, get a video monitor (it helped with my anxiety a lot and made it so I wasn't chained to the bedroom as I adjusted). Add later upon layer of safety barriers so your daughter would wake up before rolling off the bed. I put a line of action figures that would be super uncomfortable to roll over plus some firm foam pillows on either side of the mattress. My daughter is just over 2 and it works great.
You've got this!