@einnob101 I am not judging, I’m just asking - would your hospital allow this? At mine, anyone present at a labor absolutely must be over 18.
@einnob101 A doula as your birthing partner might make more sense than having your husband there with a toddler.
lancesully
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@einnob101 Don't take your toddler in the room. Your toddler is not ready to witness everything that is going to happen during the labor. The situation may seem traumatic for your toddler; some kids may see it as torture for their mother. I understand that the situation is hard for you since you have no support, but I hope everything turns out perfect for you and your family.
@einnob101 We’re in a similar spot and are flying in our mil as soon as I go into labor. If she doesn’t make it before I need to go to the hospital and nothing else will work I’d rather give birth on my own than have my toddler there. This is my second birth and no way my first birth was an appropriate situation for my toddler. Even thinking about it makes me so sad. Even traditional home births didn’t have kids in the room.
@einnob101 My 3 year old (at the time, he’s 4 now) was in the room with us when my now 1 year old was born. It was a precipitous labor and we also don’t have family nearby. He loved being a part of it and still talks about it to this day 
he wasn’t at all scarred or traumatized
he wasn’t at all scarred or traumatized @einnob101 Yes! I told him over and over again, “Mommy has to be really loud when your brother is born but I’ll be ok, it just helps me get him here faster” and things like “I’ll probably sound like a dinosaur/lion/loud animal when the baby is born!!” i know it sounds weird but it helped. He just said “mommy, you roared like a lion when my brother was born” haha! He loved it. He helped my husband cut the cord and everything. It was very special and I wouldn’t change a thing! He said he wants to be involved with the next baby’s birth (whenever we have another) as well
I’ll add that he’s a very timid and sensitive kid, so we didn’t know for sure how he’d do. So if your child is more quiet/reserved it doesn’t mean it won’t work out
I’ll add that he’s a very timid and sensitive kid, so we didn’t know for sure how he’d do. So if your child is more quiet/reserved it doesn’t mean it won’t work out
@zeljan Thank you so much for sharing your experience. This really calms my mommy brain down. I like the idea of telling her that I’ll be loud too. Didn’t think of that. Especially stating it like that, “I’ll probably sound like a dinosaur/lion...”
also great idea about having them help cut the cord!! I’ll let her decide if she wants to do that.
also great idea about having them help cut the cord!! I’ll let her decide if she wants to do that.
euroclydon
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@einnob101 This is a good question. Me and my almost 4 yr old are super close. I get up and groan , she goes “are u ok mom, does ur back hurt?” Not sweetie I’m just old and 16 weeks pregnant. Haha.
I always wondered if having her in the room would be cool for her. My birth with her was super smooth and easy the nurses were shocked it was my first baby lol started pushing at 2:30 am. She came out 3:00am.
Right now she probably will be with grandma at the house but reply to me so I see other ppls responses lol.
I always wondered if having her in the room would be cool for her. My birth with her was super smooth and easy the nurses were shocked it was my first baby lol started pushing at 2:30 am. She came out 3:00am.
Right now she probably will be with grandma at the house but reply to me so I see other ppls responses lol.