@bendi Good for your son I don't blame him I would reject her too. Poor sweet baby. I'm glad you only have to deal with her a couple of times a year. I hope to keep our distance from my MIL as much as possible but my husband doesn't see her problem behavior as clearly, and right now she's being clingy because my FIL just passed away. I'm glad your husband is making an effort. It's true we cannot control it. But it is so sad and makes me so angry. How dare these MILs hurt their little feelings and still be allowed to have a relationship with them. Ugh it's so selfish. Anyway I hope you and your children can spend most of the time around those who treat them well and always remind your son how much you like and love him and how insignificant her opinion is to you. Which I know you will because you sound like a loving mom. I wish you all the best.