bishopstrong
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-Quick background-
Son(9y) has those diagnosis and very high functioning autism, his mom has primary custody, was separated from son for 6yrs because personal/legal/pandemic reasons, have lots of catching up to do, and I am a.d.d. so I understand lots of (but not all) a.d.d. issues.
-the rest-
My son is great in that he'll listen and we work together to manage his impulses, when he's feeling restless he just monkeys on me and I coach him through being conscientious, he has a decent variety of "safe foods" so he's getting in his calories, we do stuff like together like brushing teeth because he doesn't like being alone, and he enjoys my presence and finds comfort in our cuddles.
But I struggle with him telling me what he wants or will respond "no" to everything until he's thought about it. Gonna work with him to say things like "I need to think about it" or express how he feels about something. When he's overwhelmed/confused (which is kinda frequent) he only responds with "...I don't know...", "NO!", or just shuts down.
Does this get better as our relationship improves? If he opens up I'm very confident in helping him navigate his emotions.
What things helped you help your kiddo with the "no" impulse of O.D.D.? Less open ended questions and more "either/or" questions?
(Thanks and blessings.)
Son(9y) has those diagnosis and very high functioning autism, his mom has primary custody, was separated from son for 6yrs because personal/legal/pandemic reasons, have lots of catching up to do, and I am a.d.d. so I understand lots of (but not all) a.d.d. issues.
-the rest-
My son is great in that he'll listen and we work together to manage his impulses, when he's feeling restless he just monkeys on me and I coach him through being conscientious, he has a decent variety of "safe foods" so he's getting in his calories, we do stuff like together like brushing teeth because he doesn't like being alone, and he enjoys my presence and finds comfort in our cuddles.
But I struggle with him telling me what he wants or will respond "no" to everything until he's thought about it. Gonna work with him to say things like "I need to think about it" or express how he feels about something. When he's overwhelmed/confused (which is kinda frequent) he only responds with "...I don't know...", "NO!", or just shuts down.
Does this get better as our relationship improves? If he opens up I'm very confident in helping him navigate his emotions.
What things helped you help your kiddo with the "no" impulse of O.D.D.? Less open ended questions and more "either/or" questions?
(Thanks and blessings.)