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jyothipriyanka

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TW: Living child, recurrent chemical pregnancy

Me and my partner are both 31, healthy BMI. I'm kind of not really sure what I want from this other than to rant a bit, and maybe get some second opinions.. I have a 2.5 year old who I conceived on cycle 4 (and really conceived the first time we really tried)

In May 2023 we decided to start trying for #2, and have been trying ever since. I've had 12 cycles, including chemicals in September 23, November 23 and February 2024 but nothing that has progressed as far as even 5 weeks. I'm confused, sad, frustrated and impatient.

Regular 27/28 day cycle with easy 5 day periods my whole life

In January I began getting tests

- All thyroids were fine

-3D ultrasound showed no issues with my uterus, no polys/fibroids etc

-Lupus Anticoagulant 7 iu/L

-Cardiolipin AB IGG 4 GPL kU/L

-Cardiolipin IGM 3.6 MPL kU/L

-Nuclear antibodies - negative

-Clotting screening test - normal time no issues

-Normal AMH and FSH (clnic didn't give me my levels but said they were find, 'good')

-Progesterone was fine. I supplemented with progesterone pessaries on Chemical 3 but it didn't have an impact and I still lost the pregnancy

so basically everything looks... totally normal?

The fertility clinic I've been seeing have said to take 75mg baby aspirin, get a Beta 2 Glycoprotein test which I had been due to get when I got pregnant with the February chemical so never got. Then it sounds like they think my options are

Karotyping (seems strange and unlikely since we have a living healthy child) and sperm DNA fragmanetation... keep trying. This feels kind of pointless to me since if I pick up an issue i'd just have to progress to the option below, and if there's no issue maybe I should have just kept trying without the testing..

or

Do IVF with PGT-A and an 'Alice' test (I think she said it was Alice but I could have that wrong, it's to check if you need antibiotics before transfer I think)

So basically I think I'm left with,.. keep trying blindly and hoping it just .. works? (We're 12 cycles in now so surely it would have done by now? Three chemicals in 6 months makes me think surely there's something wrong??? how likely is it to have 3 from pure bad luck???) Who knows how long that will take, and I wanted a smaller age gap. I feel incredibly lucky to have one child already, I know many here are struggling to conceive number 1 but I really want him to have a sibling.

or the IVF etc route, which is so expensive as well as of course medically invasive. We're in the UK and our insurance won't cover IVF but can't go NHS funded as we already have a child (which I think is reasonable, and they should absolutely prioritise those who don't have a child yet)

Just wondering what people think.. what would people do in this situation? Should I suck it up and keep trying accepting I may well have more chemicals or it might just take a lot longer than I hoped, or stomach the cost of the IVF.

My heart hurts.. :(

Ps - thanks so much to everyone who posts here, I have been able to advocate for the tests etc all through the info I've learnt from this amazing community. I am very grateful for you all.
 
@jyothipriyanka Are you able to get on the IVF wait list while pursuing additional work up? I can’t speak to the “1 LC is dna fragmentation etc. really a good suspect here” question but I think that’s a fair question you ask. I don’t have as much knowledge on that so hopefully someone else can chime in. Possibly post in r/IVF and r/IVFaftersuccess
 
@bloodborn It's not a wait list as such because I'd be paying privately. So they are happy for me to have it done as soon as I'm ready to stomach the cost. I'll have a look at the other forums though thank you!
 
@jyothipriyanka We are in the exact same boat! I’m also 31 and healthy, and also conceived my first quickly (3 cycles, with a loss on cycle 1) and also started trying for our second in May with no success except 4 losses: 2 chemicals at 4-4.5 weeks, 1 chemical/early miscarriage at 5 weeks, and a 7 week loss of twins after heartbeat. We are completely unexplained as well. I have extremely regular cycles (pretty much almost always exactly 29 days) with confirmed ovulation, and plenty of eggs (high AMH). There is no reason why we shouldn’t be getting and staying pregnant and yet here we are. We are also seriously contemplating IVF, I’m pretty much sick of TTC at this point and anything that takes it more out of my hands and into “science”, the better.
 
@michaelwayne57 I'm so sorry for your losses. Completely relate to being sick of TTC... the impact it has on us as a couple is so difficult.. I'm just feeling sick at the idea of spending what is most likely to be 10k on IVF given the clinic has recommended we'd need the PGT-A etc...
 
@jyothipriyanka I'm so sorry for your losses. Unfortunately around half of recurrent miscarriage cases will be unexplained after all the testing. We just don't know why it happens.

Aside from progesterone and baby aspirin which your doctor has already recommended then the treatment pretty much is just expectant management. This feels really frustrating because it's hard to feel like anything will be different the next time round. However statistically you are still more likely to have success with a future pregnancy than not, even after three miscarriages. Although stats can really lose their comfort after you've ended up on the wrong side of them enough.

Tommy's in the UK have a bit of info on recurrent miscarriage: https://www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support/miscarriage-information-and-support/recurrent-miscarriage

They also have a calculator that made me feel better when I was particularly miserable but your mileage may vary: https://www.miscarriagetool.tommys.org/

In terms of IVF most of what I found when researching rpl didn't really suggest much benefit. It didn't generally have an impact on live birth rate from what I remember. Some people do go down that route using pgt-a to at least avoid a miscarriage due to chromosome issues.

I found the ESHRE guidelines helpful when I was researching this. You can find them here: https://www.eshre.eu/Guidelines-and-Legal/Patients . Just scroll down to the management of recurrent loss patient leaflet.

If you want to hear about others experience with loss there is a podcast called worst girl gang ever that interviews different people about their experiences. It helped me not feel alone.
 
@nlu Wow this is such a thoughtful and helpful comment. Thank you so much for the time you took to write it. It helps a lot to feel the companionship of the other people on this group. I'm very grateful.
 
@jordanjames88
  1. I got my first positive on 11dpo the first one, 10 dpo the second, and then 12 dpo the third.
  2. We weren't tracking ovulation so I don't know for certain which day I got peak. Assuming my normal pattern I believe most likely it was O-2 and O from the app data I still have on when we BD.
 
@jyothipriyanka Tw- same as op

So i am 36, got pregnant with LC first month trying when i was 34. I also had a chemical my first month trying for my second. The next cycle i didnt get pregnant.

With my lc, i got a positive test 10dpo and probably would have positive if i tested 9 dpo bc it wasnt very faint. With the chemical, i didnt get a faint positive until 12dpo.

I have been telling myself that late implantation suggests chromosome abnormality as opposed to my body doing something wrong (not sure if this is completely data supportive). But i would be more concerned if i had a positive on 9dpo and then had a chemical.

Also- i meant when did you have sex for lc vs chemicals - sorry for the typo- are you still not tracking ovulation with lh strips?

With my lc, i did my first a LH test, it was peak, had sex 3 times over next 40 hours. With my cycles for baby2, i have been tracking with clear blue which also shows ‘high fertility’ and having sex earlier and hitting 0-5 or 0-4 in addition to closer to O.

Total anecdotal, but my sister tried for her first and just did one test, got peak, and started having sex after that and got pregnant with positive 10dpo.

I wonder if for us who can get pregnant relatively easily, if fresher sperm is the way to go- like what if the close to death 0-5/0-4 sperm is taking up all the good space for the egg, resulting in chemicals?

This month, i am going to try to only have sex once i have a peak, like i did with my lc. If you arent tracking ovulation, i would start bc you might be surprised when you ovulate and you want to hit 0-2 and/or 0-1 for best chances.

This isnt based on anything other than my own very limited experience and may not even make a difference for me- but i find that all pregnancy advice is so one size fits all and not well understood and i hate doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Might as well think what happened when we were successful and try to copy that.
 
@jyothipriyanka Just want to say we’re in the same boat. Conceived my now two year old the third month trying. Started TTC #2 last June and got pregnant immediately but had a MMC at 8 weeks in August, then two chemicals in September and November. We went to a fertility clinic after the second chemical (all tests have come back normal) and they have me on progesterone at 3 DPO but I haven’t been able to get pregnant again to see if that helps one stick around next time. It’s so frustrating!
 
@jyothipriyanka I too have a lc and now considered to suffer from recurrent miscarriage. We have had 6 mc's in the last 14 months. All tests check out for us. IVF would be out of pocket and we are not planning to go for that because that first step for us is not where the issue seems to be. We have another 4 weeks to wait for our karotype results and will go from there. I have no advice but it's very frustrating!
 
@jyothipriyanka Have you heard of a book called, It Starts with the Egg by Rebecca Fett?? I’m in a very similar situation as you. My first is almost two and we’ve been trying for baby 2 for about a year now. Had a chemical in May 2023. My sister in law let me borrow her copy and there’s so much quality information that has given me a lot of hope that we’ll conceive again soon! I don’t have much to share for progress as I read it a couple weeks ago, but I feel well informed and like I’m putting my best effort in!
 
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