I’d love to get some thoughts on my situation.
My wife and I have spent ages trying to decide whether or not to go for a third. We’ve got two boys (2 + 4) and my wife is desperate for a third. The stumbling block is that we are both in pretty busy jobs (hers more than mine), which means that we haven’t got much spare capacity. I do significantly more childcare Mon-Thu, but she is off on Fridays and does pretty much everything that day.
She absolutely loves everything about being a mum. She does think it will be tricky for the first few years if we have another, but then thinks the benefits will far outweigh the negatives in the long-term. She would also love to have a girl.
I’m just not sure if a third will push us over the edge of having a happy family life to a difficult one.
We’ve been chatting about this since our second arrived. I’ve told her today that whilst 3 is not off the table, I won’t be ready for at least another 6 months. She is a bit upset about the situation. Our age isn’t really on our side and in an ideal world, she would want another soon to keep the age gap close.
Has anyone been in similar situation? All of our friends appear to be so aligned on deciding the number of kids they have and this has become the number 1 conflict in our lives.
Any advice/thoughts would be appreciated!
My wife and I have spent ages trying to decide whether or not to go for a third. We’ve got two boys (2 + 4) and my wife is desperate for a third. The stumbling block is that we are both in pretty busy jobs (hers more than mine), which means that we haven’t got much spare capacity. I do significantly more childcare Mon-Thu, but she is off on Fridays and does pretty much everything that day.
She absolutely loves everything about being a mum. She does think it will be tricky for the first few years if we have another, but then thinks the benefits will far outweigh the negatives in the long-term. She would also love to have a girl.
I’m just not sure if a third will push us over the edge of having a happy family life to a difficult one.
We’ve been chatting about this since our second arrived. I’ve told her today that whilst 3 is not off the table, I won’t be ready for at least another 6 months. She is a bit upset about the situation. Our age isn’t really on our side and in an ideal world, she would want another soon to keep the age gap close.
Has anyone been in similar situation? All of our friends appear to be so aligned on deciding the number of kids they have and this has become the number 1 conflict in our lives.
Any advice/thoughts would be appreciated!