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    Would You Rather: House Addition

    @kimrossie House A, honestly. As nice as a plot of land with a modern house is, community is more important. Seeing the usual faces, having relationships with neighbors and so on beats having a big house imo. Especially as the kids get older, it gives them more freedom and they don’t rely on you...
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    Parent Child Coercive Cycle Vs attachment/gentle parenting?

    @acuriousgirl Huh, that is interesting about the attuning reinforcing the behavior. In my experience, the attuning does the opposite! I think a lot of it is trial and error and situational. There is no sure fire way to deescalate because it’s all nuanced. Like in an instance where my daughter...
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    Parent Child Coercive Cycle Vs attachment/gentle parenting?

    @acuriousgirl This is just an opinion and I’m not super familiar with the ABCs. But when I was teaching preschool (at a RIE based preschool, which is often gets conflated with gentle parenting), us teachers often talked about how very well intentioned parents often missed the mark with “gentle...
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    Anyone on here who’s partner isn’t an abusive a-hole?

    @vigilantrogue My husband is a lovely father and a lovely husband. He truly tried his best. The truth of the matter is though, if you are the child bearing parent most of the physical responsibility lies on you. Especially as a stay at home parent. Unfortunately, that’s just how it is for a...
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    Hunt, gather, parent

    @joshdons I read it about a year and a half ago when my daughter was one. Now I have a 2.5 year old. The book is definitely been something that’s acted as a little voice in my head- “slow down, let go, and involve her” are often the little mantras that pop up thanks to that book. Now she’s at...
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    Hey I’m fat and wanna get fit during pregnancy!

    @tylerwest21 I’m just here to recommend a program that is directed toward pregnancy and postpartum. It’s called Get Mom Strong. I think your best bet is to do something particularly directed toward pregnancy so you’re not fumbling around trying to modify and you get the most out of your session...
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    I don’t have a mom or a lot of family. Give me some motherly advice and tips about my first born

    @madscribbler Yes! While you’re baby wearing or walking around the house with the baby, tell them what you’re doing or the things you see. “I’m chopping up this carrot now for my lunch! Do you hear that? Chop chop chop. Yum! I love carrots. Soon you will try some too.” And for the window...
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    I don’t have a mom or a lot of family. Give me some motherly advice and tips about my first born

    @madscribbler I also don’t have a mom nor family. I’m 3.5 years into my parenting journey with another due in a few weeks. Here are some thoughts: 1.) Many new parents, especially those who don’t have family or had a rough upbringing, have the drive and desire to do everything right. You might...
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    How to smell good in a nontoxic way?

    @superpeople I dont know how crunchy it is but I’ve been wearing Kumba Made Egyptian musk since I was 14. It’s definitely scent and I like it much better than alcohol based fragrances.
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    “Cosleeping/bed-sharing creates dependent children”

    @sharkdive1 I think the key skill that both you and your niece learned was how to fall asleep independently in the first place. Whereas with my daughter and many kids I know, they didn’t learn to fall asleep independently and relied on nursing or contact. Therefore they had to learn to just lay...
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    Family making inappropriate comments about my baby

    @goodgirl21 Beautifully said!
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    “Cosleeping/bed-sharing creates dependent children”

    @jess75 Bed sharing creates dependent sleepers, yes. Eventually, you won’t be able to just pop your three year old in their own room to fall asleep by themselves, it’ll take some undoing/unlearning. But children can still be independent in every other way. My daughter and I just stopped bed...
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    Family making inappropriate comments about my baby

    @obedientsacrifice You absolutely are not overreacting. Drawing attention to anyone’s body is incredibly inappropriate imo. Especially if negative or sexualized. I’m dealing with something similar but from my in-laws. My MIL and SIL are anorexic. My MIL has struggled with anorexia the vast...
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    studies on nature v nurture - all flawed?

    @julz123 I think the Erica Komisar idea very extreme. Like another user pointed out, our kids have been taken care of by multiple caregivers for pretty much all of human history. Granted, the family groups were much more tight knit and everyone lived together. That said, I think it’s possible to...
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    Older baby too big for C curve

    @ashleychristine8 I transitioned out of the c curve at about 4 months. My daughter is almost 11 months now and I nurse her to sleep on my side, then when she’s asleep, I detach and make sure she’s on her back and I lay on my back or my side. Facing her or away. Honestly however I feel...
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    Is the preschooler age supposed to br this exhausting/what am I doing wrong?

    @maygrace I have a 3.5 year old too and had the same thought. I think he’s ready to drop his nap. Mine also dropped hers at 2.5 and is asleep by 7pm. And awake by 7:30. Asleep by 7 is earlt but it’s worth it. I feel like once our daughter dropped her nap, it was hard for a week. She was...
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    Considering quitting to SAH- looking for perspective on kid in full-time daycare

    @billyli I vote part time care. I read that your son’s school doesn’t offer it but even if you could pick up earlier. Before being a SAHP, I was a teacher/caregiver at a nursery school. My observation is everyone in the family gets the most of what they need when kids are in part time care...
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    Night weaning

    @debbie_s I am not sure if you are bed sharing but my SIL sent this to me. She did this with her 3 girls. https://www.drjaygordon.com/blog-detail/sleep-changing-patterns-in-the-family-bed My baby is only 9 months but I plan on using this method when the time is right. Hopefully this helps some!
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    what is your bed sharing routine?

    @triumphinchrist I’ve got an 8 month old who I have been bed sharing with since she was a couple of weeks old. I typically get in bed with her when it’s her bedtime. Very rarely can I leave and not have her wake up 30 minutes later. Her bedtime is 7 so I’m in bed with her for almost 11 hours...
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