@joint_praise I’m 10 months into pumping, which was not my first choice. I do it because my baby struggles to transfer enough milk with just nursing. I also struggled a lot with secondary low supply, especially at the beginning, so I have a lot of complicated feelings about dropping pumps or...
@focusedontheneedle Hi! I’m an English speaker in Japan, also doing OPOL with my 1.5 year old. I am behind you in experience, but I have heard of these bumps in the road before for bilingual kids raised here. Solidarity, and I am interested in what others say!
@fromissouri Thanks for sharing your expertise! Your situation sounds like it has been so hard, but you’ve gleaned so many lessons. I appreciate you telling us your story.
@tincup Totally! By 19 I was already doing well in university, sharing a household with friends, working, in a loving relationship… I’m glad my graduation age didn’t hold me back from the experiences and independence that’s appropriate for that age.
@mgreene05 I’m kind of awed that you had her relatively young, and by being OAD have sooo much of your life ahead for not raising tiny children! Good for you!
@kwildson Fuck. This sounds so rough, pitocin I’m the first place makes labor SO much harder on the mother.
At the end of the day, it’s your body and your life. Potentially grieving a second child you never had hurts fewer people than grieving and regretting a second child you end up having.
@sumeria People say it’s worth it to have the tiny baby years consolidated and out of the way sooner, but I’m afraid that I wouldn’t be able to be a quality parent for the hard years with more than one tiny kid
@2ndlight And broke and physically recovering and doubly stressed about breastfeeding and supply…. I think it would take to much sacrifice of my parenting ethos to cope with 2 under 2….
@2ndlight Mine is 19 months and I’m horrified when I meet people with two under two. I know I’m projecting and maybe that’s what they wanted or even planned for, but I just think that is too many small kids for one or even two parents to handle