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@patchrex Right? 🫠

@laura100 I kept my last name and our daughter has a hyphenated last name with mine first then my husband’s. I’m pretty sure it pisses some people off but eh whatever. We still get mail addressed to us as Mr. & Mrs. “Husband’s first initial + last name” from his mom and other family members on...

@terrastorm We are 4 months and I’m still “go with the flow” — you’re doing great!

@boscoe9 Right!? When I hear stories like this my mind immediately goes “but did you die!?” as if my misdiagnosed post partum pre eclampsia means nothing.

@girl4god86 The people who I know personally that have done this have been super religious. For example, my neighbour got pregnant with her son and during blood testing they found out she had early stage kidney disease. The pregnancy damaged her kidneys to the point that her doctors said if she...

@whittney1234 Thank you for your comment, given yours (and others answers) we definitely will be tabling the discussion for a later date, and just enjoy our current family of 3 for now! I don’t wanna be missing moments with my daughter just cause I’m stressing about a decision that doesn’t even...

@paulgilldrums I guess that’s the thing is that just because we may make a decision now, it’s not like we are set in stone in any way. We may have a conversation today saying OAD, but then in a year decide the opposite, and there is nothing in writing anywhere saying we have to stick with a...

@stuart1717 Thank you for sharing your perspective, it seems very unbiased and truthful, and I really appreciate that! I guess we may need to just put the decision on hold for now, and then take a look at the idea in a little while. And really just be happy with the pros of whichever option we...

@little1 Yeah I think revisiting the discussion later on may be the way to go. We don’t have to make a decision right now (or even in the next year) but yes it is hard given my fertility history. That being said we need to wait 18 months between births anyways so that does give us a bit of time...

@calebm Reframing my mindset would definitely help while we wait to open up the discussion again (as others have recommended to table the discussion for now as it’s so early) I definitely resonate with your comment, “deleting someone from your hypothetical family” — it’s hard to not look at it...

@wunderlust Waiting a year (or any specified time) to re assess is probably the way to go, especially considering we really would want to wait the recommended time between c sections anyways. And yes, who knows, we may not need fertility treatments to get pregnant a second time, I’ve heard many...

Hi all — really happy to have found this sub! Just starting to explore the idea of OAD, not sure what I’m looking for with this post, I guess just sharing my story and seeing what people’s thoughts and comments are, and maybe some similar experiences? My husband and I have a wonderful, happy...