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@ksfaith …wow. That’s what you got out of this? You also clearly didn’t read my post or this comment. He /offered/. He was aware of the situation. He told me to save my money for my child, regardless if it was his or not. He did not “bear the financial burden”; we were casually dating, and C...

@adilmalick So I researched labs in my area that did paternity tests. My partner at the time, C, offered to pay for it if I put the down payment on it. We did the NIPT, which is non-invasive. It was a total of $1385. I put $300 down for the deposit, and on the day of our test, he paid the rest...

@djlitton See I had dated S previously (casually but still), so he’s technically an ex, but ended up having a fling with him after we ended things. He has no problem acknowledging his first daughter (he got her mom pregnant while he and I were dating smh). I think it’s bc he doesn’t like me. I...

@poporetto I believe it’s the same in my state. The difference is that bc he’s not on the birth certificate, he has 0 parental rights at the moment. If we got the paternity test through the Attorney General, and when it comes back positive, then he’ll have parental rights. So if I wanted him to...

@uselessnumberone I may try that! I didn’t even think to check my state bar website.

@uselessnumberone That’s true. I’m not 100% certain. It’s something I’ve been praying about, and typically I would follow up with legal advice, but I don’t really have extra wiggle room in my income to pay an attorney at the moment. I’m working on saving to ask a family law attorney

@uselessnumberone I think in my state I can get full custody if he “abandoned” me during my pregnancy AND was absent for at least 6 months after. Everything I researched showed that I’d get sole custody in my state, but I’m just worried and it sucks that in my state, filing for CS automatically...

@poporetto That’s what I think he’d do, is fight for custody so he wouldn’t have to pay a lot in child support

@uselessnumberone I don’t necessarily want to force him to be involved. CS is the only way I know how to at least get him to follow through with the paternity test. I just want the results so I can show her when she’s older and if she wants to find him. But I’m worried that if I file for CS...

@poporetto He’s never shown any interest in her. My brother, brother-in-law, and my dad are all heavily active in her life, thank goodness

@nuni thank you so much, i appreciate it

@nuni This is how I’ve been feeling, but then I get so worried that I’m being selfish bc I want to keep her from his inconsistency. I’m scared she’ll hate me later on for not trying to get him involved. When she does eventually ask about him, I plan on being honest with her and saying he just...

Background: In early 2021, I fooled around with two men and got pregnant. One of the men was a brief fling and someone I had previously dated casually for a short time. (I’ll call him S). The other man was my new partner I was casually dating (I’ll call him C). I had my fling with S before I...