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@j2019 How old is your kid? You get used to it. If your kid is under 1 year, you just haven't found your stride yet. Are you taking any time for yourself and doing things that feel good and refresh your energy? My favorite working mom tool I'm always talking about in this sub-- my walking pad...

@kaleidoscopeheart Kids are really, really sensitive to parents stress and can start acting out as a stress response. Next time your toddler starts acting out or tantruming and you can feel yourself starting to feel stressed, tell your husband "I need a break" and go in the bedroom and close...

@honestdad79 This is me 100%. I get way too distracted at home and have a hard time getting anything done

@jackmanali This reminds me of this graph I saw in an article a while back, showing how worker productivity has increased, but wages have stagnated. We're doing more work for less pay.

@naila That's a huge raise. I would as long as I don't have to do it more than 1x/wk. Also, your partner has to be on board that he is going to be on kid/home duty that day, mostly alone, because you're going to be exhausted that day.

@messkat When we were little girls we were told we could do it all, so we have ended up doing just that-- literally doing it all. Also, I think a lot of men in Gen X/baby boomer generation did the bare minimum of the child rearing/housekeeping, and these are our husbands' dads. So that's what...

@kristaok 3 is definitely not a cakewalk (I have 3) but also contrary to the studies, I cannot imagine my life getting easier if I added a 4th kid right now. I imagine I would be much, much more stretched thin and there would be another kid needing something from me (story of my life it feels...

@morgannicole555 I have 3. No, 3 is not easier. But, nothing worth having is easy. I love my 3. Even when they are being wild and tantruming I love my 3. I just wish I didn't have to work so much so I can have some balance in my life. My kids are wonderful. It's the chores and working for money...

@chillcwill Is there any potential you can wait it out to avoid those 8-9 months of all 3 in daycare? It's just a few months, and trust me, with 3 kids having the extra money to outsource cleaning, laundry, hire an extra set of hands for the kids, self care, etc. becomes almost necessary...

@ganyan I read that a larger age gap between siblings (4+ years) increases test scores of each sibling because you're able to give more attention to each child. My oldest is 4 years older than my 2nd and is really bright. He is way advanced academically because we really gave him a lot of...

@chillcwill Oh, my 3rd was born during summer vacation. So I had my very active 6 year old , 1.5 yr old, and a newborn at home during my mat leave. After that, I was at peace with the fact I wasn't meant to be a stay at home mom and happily went back to work. I was ready.

@dezi I have 3 and can confirm, it is exhausting getting all 3 out of the house. And my baby isn't even mobile yet-- that will make it more interesting.....

@puddingtader Have 1 parent stay home unless both parents make REALLY good money ( childcare for multiple children is $$$) and live in a lower cost of living area. If you live in a high cost of living area, it will work if you bought your house years ago before housing got expensive, or the...

@albert123 My kids love TV too, particularly my oldest. I say use it to your advantage. My kid earns it by doing chores/being respectful, and it works, he does his chores and is respectful (mostly). It's great how much it motivates him

@brojoe67 I'm sorry. #2 felt that way for me too. Parenting with the way the American working world is built just seems impossible

@kolinfarrel Absolutely. Marriage is about love, but it is also a business arrangement. OP should be benefitting too. Sounds like her husband is reaping the rewards of her free labor when it comes to the kids/home, but she's not getting any of the financial benefits from him.