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@gallaghermichale Hey, if that's the case, that's the data I was after. Got no frame of reference, no adult friends, and fuck if my childhood worked this way.

@leestephen I'll also say that some of these decisions reflect the idea "Well if we've got a couple of hours at home after school anyway might as well get some things done that most people do later in the day (e.g. my oldest taking his shower at like 3:30 in the afternoon)."

@leestephen Yep, I'm also the default parent/kid logistics person due to the flexibility of my job. I'm trying to figure out how to do this without drinking myself into an early grave or giving myself early onset dementia from the lack of sleep (to say nothing of the short temper it causes)...

@thedeconverter I work in a lab at a research-focused university.

@tomm1 SAHD is the dream, for sure. Can't say I'd ever make that earning potential back, but I'd be way happy to play homemaker for the rest of my days. I kind of suck at my job anyway.

@vierentwintig Man, I would be so grateful if we had a school bus. We have 7 elementary schools, 4 junior highs, and 3 high schools in this town but no bus service. There's bus service for the people who were smart enough to live one town over where it's somewhat cheaper but still send their...

@tomm1 She teaches high school chemistry in a different school district (30 min commute) that pays better than where we live and has childcare for the toddler that's about half as much as the daycares where we live ($1k/mo vs $2+k/mo). Our school system is way better, the town is much nicer, and...

@vierentwintig Man, kudos to you for making this work. We tried negotiating a setup like this with another family but they just ended up wanting to shell out for full time care for after school, but they only have 1 so it's understandable.

@wov69 If we could swing the afterschool childcare I could live with something like this. I'd rather have less time with my kids that's higher quality than more time where I'm stressed and not really giving them much attention.

@dishfarmer I feel you on this one. My ADHD/burnout brain means that I can't make good use of the little time I do have to do real work. Luckily my boss is a family man and has sympathy for my situation, but that good will may run out at some point.

@pathfinder98 Yeah, that's my suspicion as well. The obvious answer staring us in the face is that we can't afford to live in a nice town with a good school district with our currently employment setup.

@starshinesunshine That's some valuable perspective. I thought I was living some sort of elaborate lie based on painting myself into a corner.

@starshinesunshine I was operating under the impression that most people working full time with kids were actually putting in closer to 8 hours a day. Is there a huge population of working parents who are quietly not working full time despite their ostensible titles?

Greetings daddits, New to the sub. I doubt this question has a satisfying answer, but if nothing else I'm curious on how others are dealing with it: My wife and I both work "full time". I have that in quotes b/c though my wife actually works full time as a teacher, I only sort of work full...