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@melissauk That seems fair - my husband seems very content with 1, I think I just have to sit with it for a bit but also really don’t see myself ever wanting to be pregnant again . I’m also one who takes a while to make a decision on things so birth control for me will allow that.

@dpfocanil Same boat - im 34 and we can’t afford daycare for two kids so would have to wait til I’m nearing 40 to have a second and my pregnancy was so tough that I can’t imagine it would be any easier the older I get. I think my goal right now is to soak in my sweet baby and really just ensure...

@rkvance5 I think I’m with you on this - I think I’ll get an IUD just so we have the wiggle room to see what the future brings while still very much not thinking we’ll change our stance - but perhaps this route just allows us the best of both worlds where we ensure we don’t get pregnant but have...

@little1 Good point on the healing - I guess I want my husband up and moving and our baby older before I’m in a space where he is healing from a procedure

@mila Seriously I feel like I’ve aged by like 10 years lol

@mila I’m with you I don’t want any kids after 40. My pregnancy was tough on my 34 year old body tbh

@beautiful_letdown Yeah I see why people who want multiple kids do them closer together in that sense. I’m looking forward to that age! The sleep does sound heavenly to me with a newborn currently lol

@bluesky89 That’s totally fair

@brianah Yeah that’s a nice time frame to wait - I don’t want to go longer than 4 years and also will be 38 by then and want to be done being pregnant at that point if we were to have another.

@vl32 This! Similars ages too - I definitely felt less stress knowing before our baby that if we got pregnant even without planning it we’d be ok with it but it’s a different story know that she’s here. Stakes are MUCH higher.

@savedthroughgrace That’s been a similar thought I’ve had is 38ish - I’m 34 now with my newborn and want to be done for sure once I hit 40. And even tho I feel that we’re OAD it feels right to have some sort of runway to really check in with ourselves on how we feel.

@2c710 Great advice - and also I’m sorry that you’ve dealt with infertility, miscarriage and health issues, I’m sure that adds a whole other difficult layer to this type of decision. I think I’m going to get an iud and wait it out a bit so we can see how we feel once we’re out of this newborn...

Oh man such a good thing for me to think about - how I would feel with a pregnancy scare. I’m 35 this year too and I’m with you, plenty of people have enjoyable/healthy pregnancies over 35 but my pregnancy at 34 was very tough and the idea of going through a pregnancy as hard or harder seems...

@ericguitarman Yeah mental health and finances are a huge part of the decision for me too. I want to be able to provide the best emotional and financial support I can to my kid because neither of my parents could.

@lexidoll3 I’m really looking forward to the 6 month stage everyone says they are so cute and things level out a bit. Yeah I think because we were really either going to have one kid or no kids and never had multiples on the table we’ll stay the course in this decision. I guess I also don’t...

@megannovybaker Interesting! I guess the decision on how to prevent has been made for you then

@exicon Ugh feel this - I have a one month old and I’m really struggling with the lack of sleep. Feels like I’ll never sleep again and I am such a zombie. I’m worried this will be how I have to function for a long time and I won’t be able to sustain the BF. Feels really defeating.

@ronaldus Such a a good point and great advice! For many people multiple kiddos and pregnancies is such an enjoyable thing and what is right for them, I just don’t think that’s the path for us. Nice to connect with others who can relate. Thanks for the advice!

@catqueen Thank you for sharing - this is one of the reasons we’ve discussed him getting the procedure sooner than later - so that I don’t romanticize or forget how incredibly hard my pregnancy was. I had hyperemesis gravidarum and it was terrible. I wouldn’t wish it upon my worse enemy...

@chrissygerzen That’s kind of what we’ve thought is a 2-4 year timeline. I’m probably going to have to suck it up and get one last iud.